Do you all think its ok too...?

Question

tell my son that if he does good again this yr. in school with his grades and his being a good boy in class .. do you think it is wrong to maybe reward him at the end of the school yr.. like maybe going to 6 flags or something.. we took him to a water park at the end of the last school yr. for doing so well

Answer 1

I think thats a great idea. It requires a school years worth of hard work and effort. And its something fun that you can do TOGETHER. Not just a video game or something that will just peek his interest.

Great Idea MOM! ! !

Answer 2

I think it's great to reward a job well done. . .and also give him something to look forward to and work hard. But I would spell out exactly what he has to do to earn that and chart his progress throughout the year. Otherwise, the goal is too far away and to obscure to really mold his behavior. Maybe doing well in school means getting a B average. Or maybe it means working hard on a project or trying something new each quarter. Maybe it means improving his listening skills and getting good conduct grades and points for participation on his progress reports. Goals don't mean a lot if they aren't measurable and you don't know how to get there. I guess all I'm saying is. . .spell out what he needs to do to earn that trip and the lesson will be much more meaningful to him--especially since the school year is so long! What a great incentive for him to do well.

Answer 3

It's great to reward kids for a job well done. He deserves something special if he's getting good grades. Our daughter got strait 100's on her spelling tests last year and we rewarded her for that at the end of the year. She also got a reward for her attendance. Most kids find it easy to miss school and such. She also gets small things throughout the school year as she deserves them for certain things done. Kids should ALWAYS know when they're doing something right and that it's appreciated. It makes them just want to try that much harder and keep doing it. It enforces good habits. Even in life as you get older, you're rewarded for doing a job well. Don't change what you're doing. You should be praised as well for encouraging your son like that.

Keep up the good work with your son!!

Answer 4

I think it's a great idea. This is not bribery, it's positive reinforcement. Children want attention, and many will do bad things just so that someone will pay attention to them. When parents reward GOOD behavior, they instill a sense of pride in their children, and they begin to develop a HABIT of good behavior. You might want to reward each report card with something small, ice cream, or a pizza, with the trip as the overall reward at the end of the school year. You're doing a good job as a parent.

Answer 5

I think your son should be able to get good grades without the knowledge of a reward, but at the end of the year, if he does get a good report card, you could surprise him and go to 6 Flags! Getting him stuck on a reward system will be difficult to get off of when he's older; that's why I suggest getting him to be motivated without a prize. Besides, most kids love surprises!

Answer 6

Well you can do it for maybe this year. But if you do it every year and one year you decide not to do it then he will be mad. Just try to make him think that education is key. I'm twelve and I got th highest ISAT test scores in the school. But I didn't get rewarded. I just got the education I needed. Try to make him understand that if he is good everyyear then his award will be something bigger than Six Flags. He may even be president.

Answer 7

no that is a great way to keep him motivated and doing well in school my kids get $5 for each A they get . there is nothing wrong with rewarding good behavior or good grades my oldest daughter also recieved a free movie rental at the local movie store for each A she got (5 of them)

Answer 8

I think it is a wonderful thing to give your kids a goal to work for, even if the work is school. You wouldn't do so great at work if you didn't get a pay check right. It's not a bribe, it's a reward for a job well done.

Answer 9

IMHO - You should reward his grades every semester!! And alot of places will give discounts or prizes for good grades. Take his report card wherever you take him and show the managment how great your son did in school and they will also reward him! Exxample: Chuckie Cheeses gives free tokens to students with good grades!

Answer 10

Positive reinforcement is a good idea for a job well done! You are wise to reward him, that's what happens for us at work. We work all week and our positive reinforcement is -we get paid. If we didn't get paid we wouldn't work and like wise if we did a bad job we would be fired. So it's no different for children. Positive reinforcement/reward will go a long way.

Answer 11

GO for it!!!!!Let him know and understand that you support him fully and r there for him!!!He will appreciate the fact that you notice that he has done well!!!If you really like to make it fun for him let him ask a friend with so that he will never forget the experience and he will be thankfull for doing that!!!Obviosly he will do well in school again to make you proud and to get that special thing the end of the year!!!One thing ask him this time where he would like to go so he will enjoy it even more!!!You r GREAT PARENTS caring about him so much!!!WELL DONE!!!