Me and this girl were going out for like four months and she during the first three months she was all like “I love you and stuff” but in the forth month she started acting differently and distantly and when I asked what was the problem she aid it was all because she was breaking her mom’s trust(as her mom dint new she was dating me)…but then at the end of the forth month she said she dint felt the same ways I did and was confused…I was also reacted badly and said that I don’t want it to be all a waste of time and we broke up…i really like her but I don’t know that weather she did it cuz I said it was a waste of my time or did she do it because she dint like me nemore?
Should I try to again with her or should I move on?
2006-08-12 00:22:08 · 7 answers · asked by @li 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm another detail is that she said whn she also said that she dint wanted to end it this way...and about not telling her mom....it was because the place where i live it is not considered nice to be girl friend and boy friend and her mom doesn't even want her to be frnds with a boy...so it has to be in secret!
2006-08-12 00:56:17 · update #1
from what I can tell, it seems like it's not about what you said in the end, although that could have really triggered the immediate break up. It's the fact that she liked you in the beginning and well after awhile she just started losing feelings for you. It happens, I mean yeah she said she loved you. But well in this society people misuse the word "love". I mean there used to be a thing called "really liking someone" that seemed to be gone. I mean saying "I love you" to a girl used to be the hardest thing to do, it's life changing. Well used to be that way at least. But well believe me she probably just meant she really liked you. Maybe she did feel feelings of love for you. So well move on. The whole thing is about her not wanting to be with you. What you said in the end could have made the break up go faster than it could have been. But she overall caused the break up
2006-08-12 00:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm not relaly sure what to say. I know that most people will use their parents as an exscape goat to end a relationship, but I also know that I was in a realationship, where my mother was the reason for the break up.
I knew my mom's feelings regarding the situation, but when I met this person, I just felt....well I had thought I had felt the chemisty just pour down me, but....
My aunt found out about us and she threatened to tell my mom and I didn't want my mom to find out like that, so I went ahead and told her sooner, because I felt is was my place, besides, my aunt just blurts things out, without consideration or the other all the time. I wanted to see how things went and stuff and my mom poured the guilt onto me thick, so I talked to him about it.
He also knew from the get go he was the first black guy I had ever considered dating and he knew from the get go how my mom felt and he knew I didn't want to hurt my mother either. I hate it, because I feel like I could have been really happy with him, but I'll never know.
To find out, my aunt just wanted him herself, she had to get me out of the picture.
If she didn't tell you how her mother felt from the beginning and started telling you that she loves you from the start, She wasn't real with you. If you can, as soon as you can, I would just move on.
Or if you really want her and she's worth it, then go talk to her mom and/ or dad.
2006-08-12 08:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Wanna get down not the 1st night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even go on your knees to beg for her to return..
Ask youself, why do you date? why do you want to be with her?
What do you see in your relationship? Can you see the light at the end of the tunnel?
If you answered no or don't know..then you are wasting your time.
Else..if you see a hint of light..and it's not the on coming truck..
Think of the corniest way to make her smile and make one knee to the floor and with a big bouquet of flowers..ask her to return to your side.
2006-08-12 07:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by porcu76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on because if she wasn't being honest and telling her mom about your relationship, it kind of makes me wonder what she wasn't tellling you. She probley wasn't honest with you either hon, you'll find someone else. There are lots of girls out there.
2006-08-12 07:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by party_baby_81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romance fades with time.
2006-08-12 07:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Richard 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cut her loose!
2006-08-12 07:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it and move further.You can get many.
2006-08-12 08:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by mohd s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋