i am from a very stable loving family.doing my graduation in business management. he is uneducated left his house at a young age.got wild after his mom's death.left his house coz his dad remarried. he is very intelligent, smart,has a good personality and character.we get along in many ways and are realy in love.
yesterday he was depressed coz his new business wasnt coming off well.when we discussed it i realized that he was wasting time n money on projects which are not gonna click n ignoring those which have a chance.i got angry and scolded him by reminding that he's been living on my parent's money (i dont earn. i know evenhe doesnt like taking money from me).he got upset and accused me of not trusting him. there was a big row n he wanted to know if i'll marry him if he is not sucessfull in life.i dont want a Mr.riche rich for myself but i dont think my parents would be happy if i marry a guy who cant offer any security. i dont want to be unfair to my parents.how do i motivate him?
2006-08-11 22:22:47 · 7 answers · asked by nissyfru 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"True love" is not defined by what your parents think of your choice nor will it be "forever" if you are rich and successful. It's nice to have those two things along with "true love" but it's unusual to have all 3. It happens, but not as often as people like. True love can only be determined by you and what your heart is telling you. Listen to your heart and do "the right" thing. Follow your instincts and be very careful, because it takes two to be "in love." Ask your heart....is he "the one."
2006-08-12 00:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Just Some Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear little angel , first you must sit and realize that what ever happen between you two was due to your adolescent age , you were not mature . Now you understand little bit of the world . So pl sit in a calm place and rethink , weather your action was correct ? Still you have time to correct your misdeeds done in the past .
Now , be care full and you only , advise that man to learn and stand on his own feet and for the better future , you have to and must try to change your thinking , do not get emotional about this man . you people had and continue helping him to grow , you should not take responsibility about him , you are mature enough to under stand my explanation . Hope you will not let down your loving parents . Do think again before you take any step in future and try to avoid meeting this man in private , meet him only in others presence . May God blessed you with strength and confidence .
2006-08-11 22:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the relationship could be diffuclt. A mature woman in her 30s is greater occupation orientated. She's additionally finding to get married, start up a family members, and purchase a house. In different words quiet down. A 21 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous remains interior the frat boy section. He needs to social gathering, get tattoos, drink, and be out together with his friends Love is remarkable yet once you have diverse targets in life it's going to make the relationship quite no longer undemanding.
2016-12-17 09:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned you can not scold when giving advice. Nice is always best when wanting to get your way, even if you feel like the other person is an idiot. Say things like: try it like this or if I were you I would... and you have to be supportive by saying: you can do it, I believe in you and/or I'm proud of you, I admire you for your drive and strength to keep trying... be patient with him and yourself... take deep breaths in the times you feel frustrated and don't go off it makes matters worse (sign of immaturity)...
It seems like he feels pressure because you come from a good family and he wants to finish what they started, a man who loves you wants to take care of you and he's scared he's going to loose you. However, you have to decide what it truly is you want from a man. Women choose men they don't choose us! You deserve a man who can support you and your life style, period.
Honey your life is not about your parents. this is your life! your parents have their own lives... do what you feel is best for you in any given situation... U have one life to live, Sweety. so live it on doing what makes you happy because at the end of the day, its just you....
2006-08-11 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by sassyme... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want him to be successful in life and you are willing to help him. Its sounds that way to me so just tell him.
2006-08-11 22:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a bum and will always be a bum. Save yourself alot of headaches dump him now.
2006-08-11 22:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by david s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it for anyone else do it for your self and money is not everything
2006-08-11 22:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋