they guy (your cousin) who molested you when you were a kid is back for a week from overseas. he wants to see you.
do you
a) say, hey, he is family, chat with him, wish him well
b) refuse to see him and pray he dies in a fiery explosion
c) see him and make a scene
d) bend to his will once more, then hate yourself for still acting like you are seven
or none of the above, explain?
2006-08-11 21:13:33 · 16 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
b) Refuse to see him.
Yo can always wish him well over the phone, if you want to, not that you have a reason to. He's lucky you don't turn him in and expose him to the rest of the family. He doesn't have to push his luck by demanding to see you.
Mark your boundary's and stand your ground. There is no need for him to intrude into your life anymore than he already has. There is no excuse for what he did and no need for you to make him feel better about it.
If you feel you need to wish him well because he's still family send him a card or email...and ONLY if you feel you MUST. I'd just stay away from him and ask him to do the same.
As you can see I feel very strongly about such situations, and wish you the best in dealing with this one. ::Hugs::
2006-08-11 21:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by David D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would refuse to see him but I would not wish him to die. I have been sexual assaulted when I was a kid. I had to work with one of the men that touch me the wrong way for many years, I was polite to him but I never let him get close enough to touch me in any way.
2006-08-12 04:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point your actions are your responsibility,not his. You will have to live with what you decide. But, why does he want to see you? To mend fences? To re-violate? Remember, he's matured as much as you have. Maybe he regrets his actions and just wants to know if you are OK. But, then again, maybe he wants to see if you are as hot as you were when you were 7. Whatever you do, I wouldn't go alone. Take a "girlfriend", and imply that because of earlier experiences, you aren't much interestd in men.
2006-08-12 04:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by terri m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can either make yourself scarce, say you have to work or something.
Or see him, but make sure someone else is with you when you do. And if he brings up the past inform your parents what he did to you (not in great detail if its upsetting) then let them sort him out for you. Good luck.
2006-08-12 04:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if this is a real life scenario, then i highly suggest that you tell someone. It isn't right that he gets away with doing that to you. If i were you i would tell someone, or report it to the police. Then when he comes into town i would refuse to see him.
2006-08-12 04:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you want this to remain a secrete. I suggest you see him and reveal to him that his actions were despicable. You find him an undesired person and this will remain a secrete as long as he never attempt to touch you ever again.
2006-08-12 04:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm. sorta C. i would see him but if he tries to hug u or someting just run away (not out of the room but ya know duck him) or if he is sorta 'flirting' i guess you could say with you then ya, make a HUUUGGEE scene. but never do D.
2006-08-12 04:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by shakat000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the cops waiting for him when he gets home. I little time in jail will give him a chance to realize he's a perv and you telling your story will allow you to heal.
2006-08-12 04:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Billy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up an excuse why you dont have time to see him
2006-08-12 04:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by jerrycarter1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i am back.. well.. i will chose "B" but i won't pray for him to die... just make up an excuse and don't meet up with him.
2006-08-12 04:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋