A few years ago when I was married, I had a really rough time of the relationship. [Hard to explain it... But I felt really torn apart]
It seemed I lost faith in the possibility of having a real nice relationship with a girl despite that it was the one thing I had always looked forward to, because I respected that we were married, and I felt I was copping this very hard!!
Anyway, what I wanted to ask was: The whole state of our relationship was affecting me so badly that I decided to go to a brothel!
I went in. There were girls sitting there; the lady asked if I wanted a girl - I nodded.
She said I needed to go out the back to prepare.
I went out to the back toilet, and decided I just could not do it!
So I shot out the back broken fence.
Can you give me some clues as to why I could not bring myself to intimately engage a girl when I so terribly badly needed the niceness of it in my life and needed just the sheer experience and reassurance of engaging a woman??
2006-08-11 20:45:32 · 12 answers · asked by dr c 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think its because you are married and the guilt was to strong and the fact that the vows were maybe taken before God and stuff like that made it difficult to go through with it !
2006-08-12 00:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Catt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have a conscience, some are just better at ignoring theirs than others.
Marriage should be considered a very serious commitment, despite the fact that many people do not see its sanctity. Physical intimacy is only one part of intimacy, and it has been cheapened along with society's growing disrespect for the importance of marriage and the intimacy between husband and wife that goes along with marriage.
I think had you gone through with it, you might have found that you had temporarily filled your need for physical intimacy, but your deeper need for true intimacy in your marriage would still have been lacking.
2006-08-12 04:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
b/c a brothel wasnt where u wanted to get "niceness" froma woman and they offered u a girl big difference ...... secondly if ur soo torn apart by ur marriage goingto a brothel soo wasnt the answer. a relationship and sex are 2 very different things which bring into effect very different emotions . so chances are what u were looking for u went to the wrong place to find,
good luck
2006-08-12 03:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what exactly it is that you are asking but I think your asking why you weren't able to bring your self to sleep with a prostitute? If that is your question then my answer is this : Masturbation is Cheaper
You have dignity and self respect
Come on I'm sure your a nice looking fellow do you REALLY have to go to a brothel?
2006-08-12 03:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by sugarsweeteegrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there are lots of possibilities. Maybe you felt guilty from your upbringing and/or religion. Maybe you desire more than just sex, but to have a real relationship. Maybe you desire real acceptance instead of that which is bought. Relationships are the only thing tougher than religion...probably because of religion.
Good luck.
2006-08-12 03:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Medusa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because like most you have been brouoght up to believe that a prostitute is somehow low and evil.
I don't know what's going on in your marriage but I suggest you do one of two things.
Either sit down with your wife and tell her honey, I love you but... and then go on and tell her she's a castrating ***** from hell and it needs to stop or your out the door.
OR
You need to walk.
2006-08-12 03:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely agreed with J.T, We're not trying to put you down or make you feel bad, but this is a pretty common occurance and for the reasons that J.T. stated.
2006-08-12 03:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Spookshow Baby 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guilt....cheating on a spouse is apparently against your moral standards so when it came right down to committing the act your conscious kicked in and told you to back away.
edit....I think JT is spot on with his explanation.
2006-08-12 03:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by laetusatheos 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One its against the laws of chasity, and even though you wanted someone else you didnt want bad enough to lose the one thing you wanted more than all else a loving wife.
2006-08-12 03:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by beast5320012001 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because your real motive was to add excitement to your otherwise dull & boring life. And, once you attained your goal of excitement, returned to your dull & boring life.
Common occurrence, easily explained.
2006-08-12 03:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Left the building 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋