I am a 23 year old student and I still live with my parents maily due to financial reasons. My father has never been very affectionate to me or to anyone else but we really didnt have any problems until I grew up into a woman and started to make decisions about my life. He seems to disagree with me in everything. How I dress, where I go, The people I respect or hold dear, Friends, Education, Morals and beliefs! For Example he expects me at this age to be his slave and bend down to his every command. He tells me to dress in a way that would make any 19th century woman frown, he refuses to aknowledge the changing of time and the differences in between different generations, he doesnt want me to dress in light colors or go out with friends. my mother defends me all the time and so their relationship has deteriorated. Im beginning to think him mentally ill but he refuses medical advice or counselling. he has driven me to the point of suicide three times, I feel trapped, I need advice.
2006-08-11 20:33:33 · 9 answers · asked by anahita . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is only one thing that is permanent in this world, and it's change!!! Everybody needs to grow up and change for the better. Your father should understand that. With what he is doing to you, it only shows that he is acting so immature and selfish. Do what you think is right for you, follow your dreams. Prove to him that you can make decisions that will do you good...
2006-08-11 20:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by jio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make anyone else well. The only person you can work on is you. Maybe talking with an outside party about your issues can help you to compe with his in a better way. I would check the paper for someone looking for a roommate and try my darndest to get out of there. If you are not around each other all the time the relationship might find a more even ground to sit on. Good luck to you.
2006-08-11 20:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by STEPHEEDEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about yourself and only yourself for the time being. Move out of home and become independant. Possesive fathers eventually get over it.
2006-08-11 21:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by wildgroovymunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as youi live under his roof, this will continue to happen. The sooner you move out, the better off you will be.
2006-08-11 20:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dear dont do it again, i think it is reall;y a serious situation for u, you should be keep concentart on urs study, enjoy urs life.
yours family is god for u, they never felt u in trouble dear.
2006-08-11 20:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by arun mainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...stay away from him...your Mum should stay away from him, too (even if it's only to teach him a lesson)....and get a job!!! It's a no- brainer.
2006-08-11 20:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you need to get you'r own place move out . that's the only
solution.
2006-08-11 20:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and get the Hell away from that mess you are calling a family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-11 20:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Superfly_gac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-esteem training will help you cope.
2006-08-11 20:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋