i always end up with psychos or guys with anger problems the only guy that was ever really nice and treated me really well cheated on me! my friends say that its because i am too nice. HELP!
2006-08-11 20:24:14 · 34 answers · asked by ana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey so did you have any problems with your father? Did he push you away or just wasnt there? Most girls who date these types of guys feel the need to have someone like there father or in other cases like the "psycho", and "angry" guys because they feel safe in some bizarre way. they feel like when something happens they can turn to him, and he'll go take care of it.
2006-08-11 20:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedCountryGurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My friend has the SAME problem. I find if you have standards (I'm not saying you don't), If you get to know them as a friend first (and longer than just a few weeks), Tell them the rules - no cheating, lying, etc... (just don't be overwhelming), Don't say yes just because someone asks - you need to consider what you want too so don't just worry about "hurting their feelings". Have some self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember, guys are lucky to be dating you and should be treating you with decency, care, and respect. You should also be treating guys like that too. Take care!
2006-08-11 20:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem as old as time. And it goes both ways - I've fallen in love with some of the rottenest women in the world. It's great that you are "too nice". That's a wonderful characteristic, but it can leave you wide open for disappointment. The only cure is to go slow. Continue being nice to everyone, but learn to be nice to yourself. Date all the boys you want, but let them just be dates, not boyfriends. When the right one comes along you'll know it. I waited for the right girl and she finally showed up.
2006-08-11 20:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and carefully consider what it is you are looking for. Many young people today seem to be focused on looks or possessions when it comes to attraction to the opposite sex. These factors can easily overshadow a total lack of humanity. Don't be fooled by the shallow facades. Decide what you really want and then formulate a process to determine if you are finding it. Make a list of questions that you want answers to regarding your relationship and don't hesitate to ask them early on. You may not be able to screen out someone who is very devious (but they'll usually show themselves eventually), but you'll be able to figure out if you really want anything to do with the person very quickly most of the time. Good luck!
2006-08-11 20:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by druid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you're looking for what you really want. Evaluate how you are picking your men. Are you attracted to bad boy types, then wonder why they are jerks? Are you meeting guys who are alcohol or drug abusers and wondering why they have mood swings? If you want nice guys, you have to choose nice guys. You still have to take the time to get to know them, but you can increase your odds by looking for the right types. Also be aware of the image you are projecting, it may factor into the types of men who are attracted to you. Hope this helped.
2006-08-11 20:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I used to always date guys who would like be mean to me, Like they would just say rude things and not even be joking, it was all about them, they'd ditch me, REALLY lame guys in other words. But for somereason I still liked them! And like, if i knew there was something really bad about the guy, I just would ignore it, it was terrible. Then I met a guy who was the opposite of that who treated me great, I'm with him still, at first i wouldn't date him because I wasn't attracted to him and saw him as a friend, and i realized I was crazy and needed to at least try, I knew I was avoiding him because he was so 'nice' and it was different, but a good change I got used to real quick!! :) you'll meet him
2006-08-11 20:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by USCfemme10 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets see here ur problem is Your former b/fs and sush had the hott bod and stuff im figureing one dont datem till u really know em trust me my sister is exactly the same way Heres my good advice
Sometimes u need to lisen to ur heart but at times u need to lisent to ur head and ur heart b/c one alone would be the rong way to go ~trixz~
2006-08-11 20:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Trix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judge the guy before u go for a date. Talk to him and his friends and get to know him better at work/college etc and then go for the date. If he asks you out before you get to know him better agree and then take the decision. If he has any ex gfs talk to them about why he left them or the other way around.
GOLDEN RULE:DONOT INVEST YOUR EMOTIONS BEFORE YOU ARE 100% SURE HE LOVES YOU>> AND THAT HE IS A NICE PERSON.
2006-08-11 20:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by AriS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends say you are too nice, they're probably right.
Also you may want to consider not dating for a while. Re-evaluate what you do want, then you will know if the prospect even comes close. If not, then skip it, move on..
Plenty of fish, lots of sea.
2006-08-11 20:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because you only want to be "just friends" with all the nice guys. I don't want to sound harsh but you really have only yourself to blame, you don't go for nice guys and now you're suffering the consequences
2006-08-11 20:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by John Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋