Am I wrong for making out with and almost having sex with a guy in his parents bed?

Answer 1

Not really. That is one of the most exciting things you can do.

Answer 2

I think there are serious questions that could be asked about the situation, but the question of where you did it would be relatively unimportant, although if his parents would be offended at having their bed used in such a way, then yeah, you need to find somewhere else.

But before you do that, I'd think of the following: a lot of times when people actually have sex, they don't think about the consequences first, and then sometime down the road, a third party appears, or there's a breakup, and they find out the hard way that this kind of thing just isn't supposed to happen once you've had sex.

Yes, I know there are people out there who claim it makes no difference to them whether their partner has someone else on the side or goes off with someone else, but I would say that these are people who never really gave themselves in the first place. Almost certainly it wasn't like that the first time; they have probably damaged their ability to give themselves by conducting their personal life in the way they have.

Anyway, this all means that it makes A LOT of sense to think beforehand about whether you really want a permanent relationship, one that cannot be broken without serious damage to both parties.

Another thing to realize is that a good permanent relationship doesn't happen by chance: it requires a certain attitude and efforts to be made. Specifically:

- taking complete responsibility for one's decisions and actions (which means, among other things, getting independent of one's parents);

- really putting each other first (above everyone except God);

- making a permanent commitment (in front of other people so you're accountable);

- then becoming one physically (and not only).

Obviously, you can't control your partner's behavior, but one very good thing for you personally happens when you do this: you spare yourself a lot of temptation and trouble, because you have chosen to instead focus on doing what you need to do to make your relationship good and lasting.

So, if you've done that, and your partner (God forbid) doesn't keep their end of the agreement, you have something else that's equally important, namely: a clear conscience.

This would tend to mean not having sex until you are in a position to do all of the above. Now, what about things like making out? These are all steps along the road towards that physical oneness you create during sex. Everyone has to come to their own conclusion about what makes sense here, I know my views have evolved over time.

As things stand now, I've come to a point where it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to start taking steps along that road until I'm 100% sure that this is the person I want to walk that road to the very end with. In practice, that means at very least being engaged, and most probably waiting with everything that is 'overtly sexual' - so, everything from making out onwards - until my wedding night.

Regardless of what your personal view is, I think it would do you a lot of good to think very precisely about these matters. And that, right now when you are most probably not in bed. It is possible to think about this stuff and talk about it in bed, but it's not the best timing, because you're distracted by hormones.

Hope this helps you make conscious decisions about what to do with your personal life in the future so you don't have another situation where you took action, and only afterward thought, 'Ooops, did I do the right thing?' I wish you a life where you have things thought out and have nothing to regret.

If you ever feel the need to start over, please know that God has already done everything that you need to wipe the slate clean (let's say, Jesus was not just a historical figure, He came to this earth for important spiritual reasons...). You just get with God, discuss those issues, leave them behind. Trust in what He's done for you, and move on with the new life He has for you.

Here are some verses you may find helpful:

Personal life: Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:3-6; Matthew 5:27-30; Colossians 3:5

Starting over: Isaiah 53:4-6; Mark 10:45; Psalm 51; 1 John 1:9; Romans 10:9-10; 2 Corinthians 5:17

More about new life: Psalm 51:10-12; Psalm 37:4; Deuteronomy 6:5; Leviticus 19:18; Matthew 22:34-40

More about love: Matthew 7:12; Matthew 25:31-40; 1 Corinthians 13 (all)

Strength for new life: Isaiah 40:28-31; Matthew 11:28-31; Philippians 4:13

I wish you all the best - may God bless you!

Answer 3

Well, Sweetie, you did say, "Almost..."

Perhaps you should ask yourself what stopped you.

Also, when you ask, "Am I wrong...", the thought from my angle is, Well, aren't you in HIS house??
Where to go and decisions like that are more in his court than in yours!
Hopefully, HE would respect his own parents enough to decide what is right there.

Was it you who persuaded him to go elsewhere, or did you want to do it in his parents' bed?
I mean, we can all understand that it may have been the only double-bed in the house, But...

Anyway, it sounds like you both found somewhere else in the end...

Answer 4

Just make sure the parents aren't in the bed too!

Answer 5

NO! You could have almost had sex in some seriously worse places. Like your high school. Haha!!

Answer 6

no thats cool
who cares where as long as there not around its all cool
i know a whole lot of ppl who have had sex on there or the'r or the'r partners bed heeh kinda funny but tottaly ok!
~ok hope that helped ♥..

Answer 7

Yes you are, what do you mean "almost"? You need to go all the way and give him what he wants

Answer 8

Yes, because you don't know what would have happened if you did have sex, you could have gotten pregnant or worse his parents might have caught you.

Answer 9

it would be kind of embarrassing trying to explain the wet spot left on the sheet after you and he had sex

Answer 10

what makes it wrong or right are the reasons why you did it and if it was for the right reasons