im about to go solo... and i have the slightest idea of how things will be when i set out to live by myself. im a bit scared and i know things wont be easy, but im ready to take the plunge! or am i? do you have any experience, tip, or advice you could share?
2006-08-11 19:49:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
most of all cash and shelter you need those
cash= food
shelter=place to stay
2006-08-11 19:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by M.F.R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to be sure that this is what you wnat and can do. Once you decide that part, you need to figure out if you can afford to live by yourself because if you loose your job or have a job that is not stable, you might encounter very difficult times because bills don't wait. Make sure you have a reliable means of transportation, so you can get around freely. And make sure you have some money put away for the time of an emergency.
To really answer your question, one would have to know if you are just leaving your parents house and going out on your won, or are you coming out of a relationship with someone. If you are leaving your parents house, it might take some time to getting used to the things that you wouldn't normally do because your parents would do them for you. Other than that, it actually might be very adventerous to live on your own. You will be able to discover so many new things that you never knew existed, you will have breakthroughs and breakdowns, and you will experience transformations within you.
If you are coming out of a relationship, of course the worst part of living alone is the loneliness. There is no one to share your thought and feelings with, there is no one to count on just yourself, and the worst part are the nights when you are left all alone in the big apartment with no one to cuttle or hug before you go to bed, or hold in your arms and say good night to. But we, human beings, usually get used to everything because that is our nature and eventually, everything is gonna be allright and you will start enjoying your new life and lifestyle. Wishing you all the best and good luck!
2006-08-11 20:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by russiangirl5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered getting a roommate? It would also cut down on expenses. If that is not an option then how about a dog? They are loyal and always happy to see you when you get home. Plus you can take for a walk or to a dog park. It can be a great way to meet other people. If you don't have to go "solo" then stay where you are at and save your money until you really feel ready.
2006-08-11 19:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by boxerlovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part, I enjoy living alone. It gives me a lot of personal space, I can do what I want, when I want. If I want to work at 3 AM (I work at home, see), I can do that. If I want to come home at midnight after a night out, I don't have to worry about waking anyone up. If I want to play my violin or sing, same sort of deal.
Yes, paying rent and bills is a challenge sometimes, but the most difficult part for me is the knowledge that if, God forbid, something happens to me while I'm alone in my apartment, it could take several days before anyone realizes there's something wrong, by which time it could be too late...
I haven't really found an ideal solution, but I think at least you need to maintain regular enough contact with people for them to find out reasonably quickly if something happens, to have someone you can call in an emergency, someone to leave a spare set of keys with (in case you manage to lock yourself out).
2006-08-11 20:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember!
DTA: Don't Trust Anybody.
Make ur own way through the crowd....
Beleive in urself.....
& ur God....
Don't be afraid....
& don't panic when a problem comes accross u...
Try to solve that....
U must change ur attitude a bit toward selfishness.....
So that no one takes ur advantage.....
And u be on profit....
If u keep these thing in ur mind u will never fail....
this harsh world will make u feel depressed a bit sometimes, but afterwards all is easy....
2006-08-11 19:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by just curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure your budget is realistic. I can't stress that enough. Have a safety net (some savings) just in case stuff happens. Believe me everything always costs more than you think it will. I don't worry about loneliness, I have the sweetest dog. I hope you like cold pizza for breakfast??? LOL inside joke
2006-08-11 19:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most difficult part will be finding someone to talk to when u feel u need to vent out all tat frustration.. cash will be a problem but it there are a lot of angels around when u need them badly
2006-08-11 20:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Calvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once I accepted that this is the way it going to be and just live in the present and love myself, things were pretty good.
2006-08-11 19:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by wyldfyr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to LIVE IT UP! Enjoy your time by yourself, because once you find someone to start a future with, have kids, etc. your time will no longer be your own! Happy partying!
2006-08-11 19:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by vhcsmamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When any time you need any help, or you feel depressed, you will wish if someone would be with you to share your problem.
sometimes there is no one to talk to about your problems and you feel depressed.
for a person who are introvert should not stay alone.
Cox depression may lead to suicide.
2006-08-11 20:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Meenu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lonelyness might get ya eventualy(silent killer takes a couple of months to set in).
2006-08-11 19:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋