I am up late because I waited up for my 19 year old son to get home. He is home for the summer from college and I still wait up for him. As I do my 3 other kids! They LIKE it because it gives them a sense of security that I care. We talked about it once...the baby is 15 and the oldest is 23.
Our only girl is 21.
2006-08-11 19:37:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I found myself doing this to my mom..when she would work late and have the half hour drive home from work..I'd tell her to call me ...I'd be up waiting..she was in her 60's and me...late 30's..IF she didn't call when she got home...I'd be a nervous wreck...Then the next morning ..I'd call and say..."Did you forget my phone number?! It's SPEED DIAL ONE!!! Where was your head?!! don't you realize I was up half the night WAITING FOR THAT PHONE CALL?!" She'd say..."now you know how I felt"
*deep sigh* She's been gone for 4 yrs now ~ I'd do anything to be waiting to get that phone call....
2006-08-12 03:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by just me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and I still tell my dad (dont really talk to my mom) where I'm going and when I'll be home... Again its a sense of security... If I were to have an accident and i was dead at the side of the road (certainly hope that will never happen, but still....), at least I know somebody might say "Wait she was off from work an hour ago, if she were staying late or going out afterwards she would have called, somethings wrong" and then call the police to start looking for me...
I dont think its an age thing, its more of a family cares about each other thing.. My dad tells me what time to expect him home as well, so its a 2 way street.
2006-08-12 02:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Emily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there's a level of comfort both ways. As a kid sometimes it gets annoying especially if that waiting up leads to a talk when you get home and you really cant see when your a certain age why parents are the way they are with that. As you get older you understand that they care and are concerned and loved you that much. When you become a parent you develop this new found respect for your parents because you have to stop and think, "did they have this many heart attacks and what not because I did this when I was that age?!".
2006-08-12 03:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE it when my parents wait up for me... But the only reason I hate it is because it means I cant miss curfew, and I have to come home at least some what sober... The only good thing is that if something ever went wrong they'd be calling my cell after i was 1/2 an hour late and if I didnt answer they'd know something happened...
2006-08-12 05:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is great that they feel secure when you wait up for them. It is also good b/c when everyone is home you can all go to sleep at night knowing that you are all safe inside together. The only problem I think would cause a problem is if they stayed out too late b/c then it would be disrespectful.
2006-08-12 02:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whilst is does feel like you care if you wait for your kids to come home, I think if you do it all the time it can feel as though your being overprotective and paranoid, the 2 things kids hate parents being. So perhaps occasionally switch from staying up and not staying up.
2006-08-12 08:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my children were home I would ask them to tell me where they were going and to give me phone numbers of where they could be reached in case of an emergency. At first they refused,but after I explained to them that I loved them no matter what they started giving me the numbers of their friends. I never called them when they were out,but just knowing I could helped to alleviate any anxieties I had about them going out. I never waited up for them. They always woke me to tell me they were home,and they always called me to let me know they would be late. I let them know I trusted them. I'm not saying it was easy at first to start doing this,but it worked for us. Only once did I stay up waiting for my daughter,and that was because she was late and hadn't called to say so. After a long conversation,she understood why I needed to know . No more problems after that.
2006-08-12 09:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like it if my parents wait for me to get home. I gives me a sense that they do care about me.
2006-08-12 02:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always did too. It's just a comfort to know your kids are safely home before going to bed.
2006-08-12 02:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never liked it b/c my dad would never have anything good to say, didn't matter what time i came home, if i didn't read his mind that day i was always wrong....always coming home at the wrong time. it just made me DREAD coming home.
2006-08-12 02:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋