2006-08-11 19:20:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait for the subject of love to come up, or create an opportunity to talk about it - perhaps at first in the abstract. Talk about such things as 'Is love a feeling or an action?' or 'What is the right way to show love?' or "What do you think about saying 'I love you'? Do you think it's possible for someone to love and just not say so? If so, why would they not say it?'
You might find out, for example, that she thinks people don't say they love someone, because they're afraid the other person will take it badly, or that she believes it's wrong to express feelings in any visible manner before marriage, or that she believes love is an action rather than a feeling.
And if you hear that, it very likely means the following: 'Just because I don't say "I love you" doesn't mean I don't. Every time you see me doing loving actions, listening to you, showing you respect, doing you favors, etc., you should understand that I am saying "I love you".'
And if you want to test it out, you do the same as what she said: if she thinks love is shown by actions, or by speaking, or by touching, or by some other way, then you do that and see what happens. If she responds positively and starts doing more of whatever it is (actions or speaking or touching or whatever) herself, then you've got the answer to your question.
And in case you're wondering, yes, I found all this out from experience. My guy just did something like this with me in the past few days, with about the results I describe above...
I wish you all the best - may God bless you!
2006-08-11 19:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and giver her time. It's not easy for someone that is shy to come out and say some things.
2006-08-11 19:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Just Some Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way she acts around all of her friends and the why she acts around her parents lets u that shes loves u are not.
2006-08-11 19:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by redd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she give u a big smile, and u can understand at that time she love u or not
2006-08-11 19:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by iloveyou_12in 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your job is to open her up! if you cant then i dont think your right for eachother...you need to be able to talk together comfortably even if she is shy.
2006-08-11 19:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Toria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
action says it all.. if she really loves you, you can alwaz feel it in your heart.. "i love you" is just something verbal.. love is more than that.. so... feel it with your heart and be true to yourself..
2006-08-11 19:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋