What's right?

Question

parents used to visciously beat, whip, switch, paddle, belt, back-hand, kick, ridicule, humiliate, threaten, etc. their kids to get fearful OBEDIENCE and submission to authority - rarely did they teach their kids to do WHAT'S RIGHT! todays parents just let their kids do whatever and rarely teach them WHAT'S RIGHT!
Both styles of parenting are abusive and unhealthy for a child and do not teach the child to know right from wrong.
So what is right?

to teach what is right, you have to either be raised (trained) to know or get some training later on to know what's right. oh sure, you probably think you know right from wrong - but do you?
how were you raised? did you learn about what's right or did you learn to fearfully obey or do what you please?
what's your idea of right and wrong? do you live by that or by the "get away with what you can" rule? do you do what's right because it's 'right' or because it will get you something? should kids just obey or do what's right?

stupid COWARDS use the bible to excuse their hateful violence! there are passages in your bible that admonish parents NOT TO ENRAGE THEIR CHILDREN! ever read those?

ignorant parent - please look up the definition of 'discipline'.

hmmmmm....psychoanalysis? I'd recommend parenting classes.

"they chew with their mouths shut"
.....lol, that's how we were raised but when i got out into the world, i discovered that many other cultures and kids make a lot of mouth noise while eating! who's RIGHT here?

re:"I beleive that if a child needs a spanken then they should get one,im not talking about beat them,or use a belt or stick,im talking about with your hand."

.........what a laugh! but it's not funny! you mean: when YOU NEED to spank a child, they should get one! it's your NEEDS that are being satisfied with a spanking - not the child's needs!
so your 'hand' is a kinder and less dangerous 'instrument of abuse' than belts, sticks, etc.? WHAT A CROCK! you're a liaring coward, IMO.
CPS or the cops should inspect your 'spanken' hands.

Answer 1

Discipline within reason is entirely acceptable. For example, I was raised in an abusive enviroment. From that I broke the cycle, I do not abuse my kids. But I also dont neglect them either. They get time outs, previlages taken away, etc. The most important thing to teach and learn is respect. It works both ways, if you allow a child to walk all over you, they will. If you abuse your child (I think your sick and --) they will fear you yet abandon the world and their people in it. BUT...if you guide your children and teach them and try explaining things to them other than "because I said so and thats why"...a level of respect will develop and positive results will be relivant.

Answer 2

If you start when they are little, training a child is far easier. My mother was raised very strictly, so she pretty much let me and my sister run wild. So in turn, I raise my kids strictly (but don't beat them like she was beaten). There is this great thing called rewards. It works. So does redirection, keeping the kid busy, and not allowing bad behavior to keep repeating. For example, my kids don't always like what I cook, but they will eat half of it so they can get down, or all of it if there is a dessert that night. They make their beds each morning and keep their rooms clean because it has always been expected of them. They chew with their mouths shut because they were taught to. They don't cuss because they were taught it is a bad choice. Yes there are still issues, there always will be. But life is alot easier when they know the routine, the consequences, and what the punishment will be. If they had to clean their room yesterday before cartoons, they will today too. If they fight with a sibling, they'll sit on their bed. Yes I spank, but never as a first option. Parenting is about raising young adults to become adults. Not yelling and using the *Do as I say, not as I do* method. I really hate that.

Answer 3

Now days you cant even spank your kid without someone wanting to call welfare on you.I beleive that if a child needs a spanken then they should get one,im not talking about beat them,or use a belt or stick,im talking about with your hand.What we do with our children is this first we give them verbal warning next comes sitting on the couch for 15min. if that dont work we will stand them in the corner,our last resort is a spanken.And i dont mean for throwing food in the floor or not picking up toys,but im referring to if they are fighting or cussing or sneaking off outside.But alot of people are scared to disapline because to many people try to cause trouble or there kids wanna go around telling people there parents are beating them"when they are not"And then some people just dont care what there children do,they can play out in the road for all they care.If you dont start disaplinging your children and teach them right from wrong,when they get older they have no respect for you plain and simple.

Answer 4

No real parent will beat there child, nor do they want their child to fear them. I do believe in spanking but I also believe that punishment should be individually tailored. Some children you can talk to, some you can look at a certain way and they behave and then there are some that you will have to spank. Which ever method you choose it should always be done in love and if it is then the child will grow up knowing that you always had their best interest in mind.

Answer 5

Well, parents should never beat their child... I have a friend who's dad use to beat her, we'd sit around talking bout it sometimes, she was scared to death of going home... I was the opposite, my parents really didnt give a sh!t what I did as long as I didnt get my friends in trouble and they didnt get an earfull from anyone... I hated going home cuz no one there cared... So two total opposites where no one did anything right... One time I stayed at my best friends house, and I asked her if her parents were always like they were, I figured they were trying to impress me like my parents did, when she said they always acted like that I figured out how a family works and that my parents don't love me, but hers do... I'd much rather go home to her home than to my house... There's a difference between a house and a home... I live in a house, she lives in a home... I rarely get grounded, she always does... And she's learnt discipline... When she gets grounded she has to wash the walls, the garbage can, dust, vacuum... do all sorts of disgusting chores... When I get grounded, I just have to sit at home and watch TV... Last time she got grounded it was for throwing knives at a target on the wall... Last time I got grounded was cuz I went out with a friend n we got all drunk n she ended up in the hospital with a .48 BAC... I'd never call my parents good parents... But I do like not being grounded! My parents aren't even mad that I'm being charged with assult and that I smoke weed and I drink... Hers are mad cuz she missed curfew by 10mins...

Whats right, is showing your child you love them no matter what BUT there are consiquences for their actions... The world lives by the get-away-with-what-you-can-rule so you wont get anywhere if you dont... and no kid will ever just obey and do the right thing, they need guidance...

TAKE IT FROM THE GIRL WHO NEVER HAD MUCH GUIDANCE AND HAS DONE ALMOST EVERYTHING WRONG! (except murder)

Answer 6

Maybe my answer is too Eutopic, given that we live in a world where the law of the jungle rules, but I've been raised with the philosophy of "do unto others what you want others to do unto you". Personally, I think if you play by this, you can clearly tell what right & what's wrong.
Violence & humiliation are not justifiable, but firm authority mixed with a lot of love is the key. If this pattern starts at an early age, it shouldn't be a problem to follow it thruout.
Parents acquire complexes & problems from their parents, who have acquired it from theirs & so on, and whether they like it or not, they are bound to throw them at their children & the web goes on.
Maybe it's just me, but I think that anyone who wants to have children & bring them up right should go thru some sort of psychoanalysis to get rid of whatever problems he/she received from their parents & break the chain, thus being able to parent with full awareness.

Answer 7

We teach our kids right from wrong, and discipline them when they do not do as they are told.
They are also taught personal responsibility. You cannot blame others for your actions. There won't be a lawyer at your side defending you when you stand before God.
YOU make the choice to act a certain way.

If you teach your kids good values, spend time as a family doing fun things, and help them make good choices - beatings (as such) are never an issue!

Answer 8

I don't think that parents should viciously beat their kids but i do believe in corporal punishment... the bible does state in a roundabout way... spare the rod spoil the child.
that is the reason that kids are such brats nowadays... no discipline at all