im tired of my sister thinking she can protect me from things. she didnt like one of my friends cuz she smoked weed and my sister didnt think that i knew better. and she wants me to get my schedule changed when school starts cuz she knows that im gonna have the teacher that she had and they hated eachother. she thinks that that teacher is gonna take it out on me. she does many other thing to try to protect me but there are so many im not gonna list them all. she thinks that i cant deal with these things on my own which i can. how do i tell her to stop being like my mom and start being my sister. i know that sisters are supposed to keep each other from harm but how will i ever learn from MY mistakes if she wont let me make mistakes.
2006-08-11 19:10:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister wants to protect you from the evil world, which we all live in unfortunately. She cannot protect you forever and in order for you to learn your mistakes, you have to make them and learn your lesson. Sit down with your sister and tell her exactly what you said in your description. You can also tell her to back off a little bit and that she is your sister, NOT your mom. Hopefully, she will understand. If your sister doesn't back off, continue to remind her until she stops trying to protect you. Keep in mind that she's watching your back and it is also up to you to protect yourself as well. I hope my advice helps. Good luck.
2006-08-11 19:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing a good job trying to keep you out of trouble and away from drugs. Maybe she has had her own experiences that were not so good and fears for you. You need to understand that your sister cares for you and is just looking out for you. All you need to do is pay attention and listen to what she is trying to tell you.
If you must, you should try to catch your sister in a good mood and sit her down. Always keep in mind that you need to stay calm, no matter what (it is the adult thing to do, lol). Look her into the eyes and tell her that you need your space. Let her know that she is doing a good job of teaching you right from wrong and that she has nothing to worry about. Tell her that it is her you will turn to if you have any questions or are curious about anything as long as she will be honest and not get angry with you. You both just need to compromise and have your parents help you with that. Your family are the most important people in the world and they are the ones who will always be there for you. Nothing can ever replace your family, trust them.
The world and the people in it can be evil. Just always remember that not EVERYONE is smoking weed, not EVERYONE is having sex, not EVERYONE is drinking alcohol and you are not EVERYONE. You are you and only you can make those decisions to wait until you are old enough. That is how you will know who your true friends are.
2006-08-12 02:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Luvlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your mom she's doing all this, and your mom tell's her than you've already got a mother perfectly capable of giving you instructions and to lay off. She can't get your school schedule changed, by the way, only your mom can. Your sister is right though to discourage you from your friend who smoked weed, she was looking out for you, and you shouldn't hang out with people who smoke weed or anything else for that matter.
2006-08-12 02:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said it is crystal clear that your sis loves you so dearly and thats the reason she is trying to protect you since she doesn't want what ever bad things which has happend to her to happen to you.
What I suggest is that the two of you have a heart to heart talk and explain to her how you feel.
You are so lucky to have a sister who loves you but at the same time I guess seh's being overprotective of you. So try to explain it to her quite gently and have a great sister to sis relationship cause it is very preacious.
2006-08-12 02:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut her some slack. as an older sister, i do the same thing to my sister (but we've never had the same teachers.) more than likely, one of these days you'll be glad she does that stuff. Plus it shows she cares.
If it truly is getting out of hand, calmly (very important) sit her down and talk to her. She probably doesn't know it's bugging you. But make sure she knows you aren't "attacking" her, because she will probably become defensive. Good Luck. <><
2006-08-12 02:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by ichthus607 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to assure her that you know what is right from wrong. She loves you so much that she worries you get harm in all way, thats why she behaves like that. That is paronoid and is hard for herself too for keeps worrying for someone's action that beyond her control. That's why she keeps on giving you instruction of what to do. Assure her that you know what your friend's doing is wrong and although you are with them you will not follow their action. As a mother of 2 kids myself I can tell you, as long as you are with those friends who didn't prove their good character you sister will still worry and nag at you.
2006-08-12 02:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best way to handle it is just to speak to her about it. I have 5 sisters and I am the youngest and it doesn't get easier the older you get believe me. Sisters just want to love, protect and not let you make the same mistakes that they have made. Talk to her and make sure you say thanks but....
2006-08-12 02:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by Rebjam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am proud of you for wanting to take responsibility for your life!!
Can you enlist the help of your mom on this (or your dad). Tell her in a loving way, that you appreciate that she wants to help you, but it is your life and you want to be able to handle things. You realize that you won't make the perfect decision, but if it goes wrong, you know that it will be your loss. Tell her that you still need a big sister from time to time, but it's time for you to learn how to handle things on your own.
Good luck to you!
2006-08-12 02:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just looking out for you. She probably doesn't want you make mistakes she has done in the past. But if you talk to her about it, she may understand and if she doesn't, tell her to stay out of ur life.
2006-08-12 03:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Melbourne Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey..you may think she is being overprotective...but give her some credit...and really try and understand her. i use to think the same thing about my parents. they use to tell me about my boyfriend and all this and i never believed them and i never understood them...until i ended up preg at 16...and my boyfriend left me. I found out that everything they said was right. so give her some credit. Try and understand
2006-08-12 02:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by kdboo4u2cherish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋