I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months. The first month we had sex 4 times a week. Now i have to beg and feel lucky if i get it once every 4 weeks. Why are men like this. He says that sex is overrated. Is is me or are men like this?
2006-08-11 19:05:13 · 34 answers · asked by caddiequeen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men aren't usually like that. Often, couples have the exact opposite problem: the boy's sexual desire usually outstrips the girl's.
You can ask your boyfriend if there's anything you can do to get him in the mood more often, but there's a good chance that there isn't. Different people just naturally have different levels of sexual desire. I think our genes tend to be encoded with some average range of endorphine levels that sex is likely to release for us, and those with higher average endorphin release levels are just going to be interested in sex more often than those with lower levels.
Maybe ask him if he would mind if you used a vibrator when he's just not interested. If he's OK with it, it's fine to entertain yourself.
2006-08-11 19:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Muralasa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried phyically seducing him? Have you made sure it's not his equipemnt that's the malfunction?
It could be that you started having sex far too early in the relationship. It's between 3 and 6 months that a couple really "let's their hair down" and gets to know each other. Sex is a horrid distraction to the the "getting to know you" process. It interrupts it altogether and you spend all your time together sexually.
Since you don't really know each other, except sexually, maybe it'll be good to get a better understanding of the man, witrhout the sexual distraction.
I'm guessing you're young, I might be wrong.
When you're young and female, you confuse being desired as a sexual object with being desired as a person. What we really want is to be desired as a whole person, instead of just the hole.
But we give it up too early because we want to be wanted.
2006-08-11 19:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by answer annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beg my wife for sex . used to get it 4 times a day now 1 time a month. not all men only your bf
2006-08-11 19:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by smiley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he's turned gay or doing some other girl, in my opinion. Otherwise he might just feel mundane about it, because if you do one thing too much, you exhaust all possibilities and get tired of it, kinda like eating out at the same resturant and ordering the same meal just a little different each time.
2006-08-11 19:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men run Hot and Cold. Often the chase is the thing...dont be so available. And have you tried the seduction thing where you hint and tease? Try getting him into the shower for a sensual rub down.
2006-08-11 19:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i had sex up to 5 and 8 times a day with my ex, easily 3 or so daily though it had to happen, but try giving him deepthroat, just like exposing his penis to you in some way, do it like i would a girl, kiss her and get her in the mood first right? do the swtich and do that on him and see if it helps.
2006-08-11 19:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex IS overrated
plain making out is fun!
but that's me
1. he could be turning gay
2 he could be experiencing some kind of health problem he doesn't want to share with u.
3. he may not dig your body anymore
try doing something extra special some night, see if you get a response
wear something he loves or by some sexy launderey at victoria's secret.
2006-08-11 19:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God i wuldn't have sex til am married otherwise am jus chillin overcumin tha temptations
chill out u have got many years 2 do that wen u want 2
2006-08-11 19:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Candie,
It is because in his mind you are a s.lut.. He does not have to work for you. You are givng yourself to him for free, so in his mind, since your sex is free it is not worth anything and you are not worth anything. Why do you think people like our grandparents waited till they got married. Because thay thought that each other was worth the wait. If you act like this with all your future boyfrieds none of them will want to marry you. I man does not want to marry a sl.ut. If you said that we are not having sex till we get married then he would change.
Your friend
Tom
2006-08-11 19:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tom Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be part you......it is a two way street. for me i want sex when i am turned on.......
wear something sexy........tease him......
and there is a web full of toys for the times alone.
even a site were you can order a kit to make a exact rubber copy of him.......
one thing,......don't be fooled.......ihe is having sex somewere. if you know he is not chearing then it is with himself.
9 out of 10 times it is in the shower.
its because it is half in your head and if he works hard, a lot less energy.
2006-08-11 19:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋