My 5 yr old daughter showing signs of sexuality... Is it natural? If not, please help!!?

Question

Hello. I have two daughters, one of them is 15 and the other is 5. My five year old daughter has been showing signs of sexuality for about a year now. She chooses to dress VERY slutty. She likes to tie her T-Shirts to show her waist and rib cage. She does not get this behaviour from my older daughter. My older daughter is actually very tasteful when it comes to dress. Anyways, my 5 year old daughter, named Tessa, really likes to copy the dance moves she sees on music videos. It is very disturbing for a mother to see this. I've actually had complaints from other mothers commenting on Tessa's behaviour. I think she even shows signs of early masturbation. She really likes touching her "area" and uses poles and other objects to rub against it. She always rubs up against table legs and chairs whenever she can. The other night I was bathing her and she kept poking her "area" with her finger. It is okay for girls to be curious but she does not laugh or anything. She is stonefaced as she pokes

her "area" and it really disturbs me. It looks like masturbation. I didn't do that until I was 13...

Another thing: This is the same daughter that obsesses over men's leg hair. She grabs and twirls any men's leg hair she sees. If tell my guys friends and my husband to never wear shorts when coming over...

Answer 1

If you hav that tv thing where u can block channles I would recomend that

Answer 2

Hi,
I agree with the person who posted just a few before me -
"Get her to a behavioral psychologist and do it now. " Little kids are curious and open about their bodies, but this sounds dangerous. Don't freak out, but Take Care of Business.
"Something she has been exposed to has become imprinted on her and she is acting out the behavior. The dress, the activities etc sounds like she has been repeatedly exposed to video pornography." - I agree that the actions sound like repetition of something seen before.
"Before someone reports you to the police and makes real trouble for your family, get to counseling immediately. -- This is so true. You must speak to a doctor or psychologist. If you take no action and it does turn out to be abuse, you will receive some of the blame and the kids (both) could even be removed from your home and custody for endangerment or neglect.
And definitley find out what she is watching at home or with the babysitter or others, because this behavior is being observed by her somewhere. Do something to protect your kids.
May God's blessings be with you as you work through this.

Answer 3

You say your daughter is 5 years old and this behavior has been going on for a year now? Get here to a behavioral psychologist and do it now. Something she has been exposed to has become imprinted on her and she is acting out the behavior. The dress, the activities etc sounds like she has been repeatedly exposed to video pornography. Before someone reports you to the police and makes real trouble for your family get to counseling immediately. And between now and then find out what she is watching either while she is in your care of a babysitter or where ever this behavior is being observed by her.

Answer 4

i am a liberal studies major (elementary school) and I learned that "area touching" at that age is normal. Masterbation is different, thats when you know what you are doing, and you usually want to be alone when you do it. As for her dressing the way she does, she probably gets that from the videos. Make it a rule that she cant watch videos if it bothers you that much. I dont think the two are related, I think that she would have still done the area touching even if she didnt watch videos.

Answer 5

Take tv away from her completely. Don't let her play on the computer, no tv, no magazines, no nothing. She is way too young to be even noticing these things. You tell her that she shouldn't be touching her 'area' unless she is cleaning herself, end of story. If you can't fix this problem, take her to a professional that can help. Perhaps she's been molested, I don't know. I've heard of that before. Either way, she probably needs to go to a specialist.

Good luck to you, and I hope everything works out.

Answer 6

People I don't answer post seriously unless I read their other postings. You know you should be ashamed of yourself. I have a grandson through marriage. I have never been able to conceive and here you are talking about dead daughters coming to life and being molested, visiting you at the same hour that they died and I don't know what else. I don't have enough time to read everything tonight. You had better hope that you don't have children or never have children. I believe you eventually pay for your actions. People read her other posts before you believe anything she says. Do you remember the story of the boy who cried wolf?

Answer 7

Has she been left alone with an older male? My youngest sister was molested by my cousin's son's friend. She then began to exhibit this behavior. She had to go through counseling. She was also never left alone with my cousin's son (please note it wasn't him a friend of his and they were only 14 at the time). Find out if someone touched her inappropriately. Also, her watching of these videos is not good. I am a tv nazi where my children are concerned. I have very strict control of the tv. If there is something on the tv that would scare them or affect them adversely it is turned off, but then they are not allowed too much tv time to begin with.

Answer 8

I did not know that a 5 year old picks and tells the parent what they should buy, or what they will wear.

I believe that there is a serious lack of parenting, too include training with boundaries.

Your daughter is your report card for parenting. Seems like you have a big red F so far!

Answer 9

That area is her vagina. It is going to be hard for you to address this with her if you are afraid to write the word. :)

It is normal for kids, some pretty young to touch their genitals. It feels good, even for "pre-sexualized" kids. You need to talk to her about appropriate behavior (it is OK to be curious about your body but you can only touch it in private). You might need to work out a subtle reminder when you see her stimulating herself in public with a chair or whatever. Don't shame her, just be matter-of-fact ("That is something for private, not public.")

What you need to decide is has she been overexposed to sexual content (like watching music videos) which is where she is learning the rest of her sexual behavior or could she be showing signs of sexual abuse. The maturbation alone isn't a sign of sexual abuse but if she is withdrawing, having nightmares, or showing other signs, you might want to do some research or speak to her pediatrician.

You control her clothing, by the way so do it. Let her know the dress standards in the house and stick to it. I hate seeing kids dressing sexually. Talk about trying to grow up the wrong way too fast!

Answer 10

I heard of that as early as age 8 I mean fingers going in! but if she is only doing the outside poking or rubbing I guess it is just she likes the feeling but does not want to go any more beyond that until she starts datieing boys then you need to talk to her

Answer 11

Your daughter's activities are probably nothing to worry about unless you believe someone has been sexually abusing her. The inclination for the type of dress she is choosing can probably be explained by her watching the activities of female singers in TV or in videos. I would not make too much of it unless there is some reason for this activity you suspect.