LUCKY IF YOU(this bein me)ARE STILL AROUND WHEN I COME HOME FROM MY YEAR ABROAD?
The Love of my life returnd home after being gone for 4 years& we started talkin on phone&bein friends.I still loved him, but i played it off &never told him since He was always tellin me hw much he doesnt want a gf now&he needs time to find himself.(he is 23,am22)
Everythin was ok til I got really drunk&told him that i still Loved him last week.He wasnt really surprised&told me that he would even marry me rite now,but he needs to find himself first&said if i would wait for him til he comes back frm his 1year teachin english abroad, he would be a lucky guy.
after ignorin his calls,I texted him that i have nothin left 2say 2him and wish him good luck in life.he called me twice since then. I didnt pick up.
I dont want him to think that i will always be there waiting for him. I want him to miss me&ask me if i we can talk, but he stoppd callin.Should i call or let it go?
He's a genuine guy,but i dunno
2006-08-11 18:52:29 · 15 answers · asked by Armenianchick1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GREAT ... now it has been like 3 days since he last tried to contact me and well i decided to call him back ...... and he didnt answer ..... then i texted him an hour later ..... still no answer .... WHAT should I do now ? Im looking like a total idiot ...
2006-08-12 13:04:39 · update #1
you should call him, dont let something like this slip away and later in life think back, "why did i just let him go?"
when he says he needs to find himself, i would probably think that he is unsure about some things and needs to find answers, such as what he wants to do the rest of his life, does he actually really love you?, things like that. just give him time and space, dont be so demanding of him, let him be himself, just wait, it might be worth it in the end if you wait for him.
its better to know that you almost had him and lose him, rather than lose him, knowing you could of had him.. or something like that.. lol
live life without regrets... you never know what could happen =)
2006-08-11 19:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by MooOooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. Believe it or not, some guys who say this really are just trying to step back and get "outside of the scenario" to determine if the feelings they have are real and lasting or just the heat of the moment.
It's part of that "if you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it is yours to keep, but if it doesn't then it was never yours to begin with" approach.
Remember, he is another human being who is trying to find his way through life too. Men are no more likely to be jerks than women are.
2006-08-12 15:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by sparc77 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know u said guys only but im type of girl that the boys talk to about this stuff.....when a guy needs to find himself it could mean that he isnt ready for a serious relationship right now and doesnt want to pull u on an emotional roller coaster, it could mean he wants to screw around before coming back to you, it could mean that the guy really needs time for himself to know what he really wants...yeah confusing i know.....i knew a guy that to him "finding myself" meant all three at one time.....of course u should not put your life on hold for him.....let him find himself and at the same time find yourself. if u think the relationship is worth it just ask him flat out where he thinks this should go and discuss the fact that it just may be over.......be upfront and try not to get too emotional (in front of him at least) good luck and i hope it works out the way u want it.
2006-08-11 19:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by keldog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, to be young and foolish again.
You're both very young, so what's the rush? He's leaving the country for a year. Go have fun for a year, and if when we he returns you're still both interested, then vaya con dios. If not, move on.
Hey, I had no idea how great Yahoo Answers would be as training for when I have kids who worry too much about adolescent stuff. Thanks for the practice!
2006-08-11 18:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Andy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL HIM! u've already waited 4 yrs whats 1 more? that is if hes really the love of ur life. even if he has moved on and dont want to b with u. u should still call and find out 4 sure.
2006-08-11 19:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by 123weed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not ready to commit. And I am not blaming him, at 23 he still needs to do some soul searching. Let him do that. Right now I truly believe you can do so much better without him. Your whole life is ahead of you and it is beautiful. You will see. Enjoy every minute of it , have fun, and let him to search for himself because.......he is a lost person. And how that saying goes? who falls off board - stays off board.
2006-08-11 19:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably for real wants to find himself, I mean, thast how I feel, I don't want another relationship untill i'm solid with who I am because I want to be fully a person (myself) to bring to the table solid, plus teaching english could be really important to him and what he wants to do in life which will make him feel comfortable in who he is, you probably shouldn't be so hard on him, call him though.
2006-08-11 19:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you are not the love of HIS life right now. He could also be sorting through other issues - he might have had another relationship while away, he could be dealing with gay/bi issues or he could be very driven in setting his career up. I think you need to move on and not give him so much of yourself that you lose yourself to him. He's just not feeling it.
2006-08-11 18:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by bitemebiteme27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. I am not a guy but I know the answer, because I read the book. "Needs time to find himself" means "he's just not that into you." Read the book. (It was written by a guy.)
2006-08-11 18:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is going to play the field and if when he is done and you are still around then maybe
2006-08-11 18:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by flopper72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋