i'm so confused i've been talking to this guy for about 4 months now.but there's a problem he's a virgin so my question is i don't know if i should be my self and be a me which is wild or go slow with him need help guys
2006-08-11 18:30:17 · 28 answers · asked by GUESS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should go slow
2006-08-11 18:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Varsity =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be yourself. If you are wild, be wild. Why?
Because if you alter your behavior and conduct yourself in ways that are not really "you" all that will happen is that you will be:
1. Letting him build a relationship with someone you are pretending to be, not who you are, and...
2. Letting yourself become frustrated at having to live in denial-of-self.
Eventually you would come to resent having to act like someone else in order to keep up the appearance of being the person he thinks you are rather than the person you really happen to be.
2006-08-11 18:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bright Future Penguin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, and care about him, then you'll need to be honest, and let him know who you are, and what you're like. That way, if he still wants to be with you, it won't be under a veneer of falsehood, and you won't be worried that he might spot your real style. Chances are, he'll be happy you want to be with him, and will be able to accept you for who you really are. If not, it's better to find out sooner before things get too serious; otherwise, it just gets more messy later on.
I'm curious why you mentioned he's a virgin, though; are you worried you're going to sexually traumatize him in some way? ^_^; Would be curious to hear more details if possible, to better shape my advice.
Best of luck with it!
2006-08-11 18:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by mpetach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always better to be you and they should like you for who you are but I guess in this situation be you but go slowly. It depends on the guy too I guess even he is a virgin he can be wild too or can be wild.
2006-08-11 18:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by WickeD_AngeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really...
Well, then. Does he want to have sex with you? If so, you know what to do, right? Protection, protection, protection.
It's always safe to be the way you always have been. Be who you are. Alternate between slow and wild. I think that will drive him off the edge. Drive him crazy, then give him what he wants slowly. Change of tempo is always mind-blowing.
2006-08-11 18:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your have mentioned that you have been "talking" to this guy no details or clue of what you have been talking about. Since talking is meant to communicate either what we like or don't like.Why carry on when you very well know that you are putting on a mask? May be interpreted to mean that you aren't confindent in yourself or about you! Being a virgin is not a problem!!!!!!!! it shows someone has had a value on them and just guarded their integrity. From the lines you have given, looks like you are refering to kind of initiating sex relations to him. To (me) this is a no go zone! If somebody is not your spouse..sex is just out of question!! Thanks
2006-08-11 18:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the guy and how much he likes you. If he likes you a lot- go for it. If he just likes you a little- I say take it slower. If he likes you just a little and you rush him into something he isn't prepared for it may do irreparable damage to your relationship. Most guys, even virgins, will give you some hint on what they are thinking. Just follow his lead.
2006-08-11 18:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is shy, take it easy & go slow. But if he is outgoing, maybe he is just as wild. Just drop hints & see how he responds. This should be a good pointer on how u proceed.
2006-08-11 18:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what type of guy he is, so be wary of that. Most guys do like a wild girl, generally, but they don't want to be the submissive one, especially on their first time with a girl. "Takes away their manliness," kind of crap. Me personally, I don't care, but just do what feels right, and he'll come around. No pun intended.
2006-08-11 18:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all guys like wild girls....and i know when I was a virgin the best thing that happened to me was going with an older more experienced lady....they show you the ropes......hell yeah.....
2006-08-11 18:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Fiji_bound2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow and let him understand you, and later on you show your wild part, so that he can accept that.
2006-08-11 18:34:00 · answer #11 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋