my mum choose her bf over me 4 years ago after he sexually abused me after 2 years and i had to leave at 12 i got taken away by docs i went and saw her the other day and she called me a s.l.ut and a liar etc and all i want is a family??
2006-08-11 18:29:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that's wrong. What kind of a mother is she, ditching her daughter for a boyfriend. I don't think she's considered a parent at all. Don't worry, you're a part of us, a person who has a family. That's real sad, makes me think about it now. Email me, we'll talk about it. Alright? krazych1nky@yahoo.com
Family.. is something we'll find for you. We'll talk.
2006-08-11 18:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, It must have taken a lot of strength to have went through a horrific chidhood and still have the courage to face your mother. I commend you for that, you are strong.
Secondly, she does not deserve to be called a 'mother' and she does not deserve you. She is not the one to turn to when you are need of a family or love. Believe me, you will come across very many people that do deserve you, will love you and appreciate you for who you are. You will always have family, even though it is not through blood. There is still hope for you, you are young and you are strong.
Please make a promise to yourself, a promise that you will understand that you deserve so much better. You are you, no one can change that. You and only you have the power to better yourself, to make good change. Don't ever lose yourself, don't ever blame yourself for what has happened. Always look to a brighter future and know that you will have to be patient and work hard for it. And always remember to stay on the right path, stay determined and continue to smile.
I am sorry you have to go through this.
2006-08-12 01:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Luvlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a toughie... u had a hard life but don't let it stop u from anything at all! you must promise to be strong and live to be the person you are GOING to be.. meanwhile, maybe some more patience will go on your side and your mom will come to realize the fault she made... in the meantime, talk to someone u trust, (friend? family member?) for advice...
you may also call the victims hotline... for sexual abuse or family relationship problems. maybe speak to a counselor.
i'm sorry i do not have a number or website for you but im confident enough you can google it up.
i wish u the best of luck....
sincerely yours.... sophie
p.s. i also suggest pressing charges (thanks to person above there for the advice!) pressing charges can prevent this man from doing the same to someone else... hope u dont have a younger sibling.
2006-08-12 01:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by swtxgoodbai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all know that you did nothing wrong. Your mom needs some serious help. I'm sorry that your mom wasn't there to protect you against that horrible man. I know it's hard for you to hear this, but unfortunately your mom is not capable of loving you the way she should. It has nothing to do with you, it's totally her fault. Until she accepts that what you said is true and gets away from that man, you aren't going to have the kind of relationship with her that you crave. If you have other family members in your life, lean on them for support. Your mom with one day regret what she has done to you. God bless you sweetie, I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-12 14:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all if your mother chooses to live like that then you don't need her u are not a s.l.u.t she'll pay one way or the other and about a family were u ever taken by someone if u were look at that family for love and support and if not i am truly sorry all i can say is look to the lord this to shall pass i will b praying for u!!
2006-08-12 01:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by murkymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know when a woman chooses a bf over her kids she isn't much of a mother is she.
you don't need her as family.all you need to know is you did nothing wrong and that you did the right thing and if she can't love you for that then to hell with her.
you'll have your own family one day and the only thing she did by doing that is make you a stronger more loving parent that will do great things and raise beautiful kids and love them with all your heart..
2006-08-12 01:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by skulllivin2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep pride in who you are. Forget this hurtful person who bred you. She was incapable of being a mother. Obviously she chose a loser. She doesnt deserve the title of mother. And isnt worthy of your love. You dont need a stranger like that in your life. Dont torture yourself any longer. I wish you only the very best in life. You deserve to be surrounded with love.
2006-08-12 01:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like you have it pretty rough. it's not your fault that any of this happen to you and your mother shouldn't call you a **** or a liar. she's your mother and she should have protected you. maybe you should think about being strong and finding people who love you and later starting a family of your own and loving your own children
2006-08-12 01:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by envisiondreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this true cause if i was you i would press charges on her and that bf of hers
2006-08-12 01:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋