Who can I tell?

Question

Just today i started remebering that my mom's exboyfriend had molested me a long time ago. And i dont know to tell or what to do and it hurts. I am only 13. My mother is a christain and she is married to another man with 2 kids (I love them to death) but i dont who to tell. It hurts really bad

Answer 1

oh Yes you have to tell... Maybe if you tell someone it would prevent him from touching other kid's. This is so sad and I am very sorry that this happened to You! But be of good courage because God is with you... I cant explain why this happened but just tell someone... If you cant talk to your parents tell someone at school such as a principle or councilor

Answer 2

Don't bother telling your mom. She has her own agenda. And she won't want to believe you.

Even if she does think you are truthful, her own social life is more important than yours, because she is a christain.

Tell adults, such as one of your teachers. Remember that everyone you tell may have their own problems. Like you, they might have just been told that they have cancer or diabetes. Ask them if you can talk to them about a personal problem or who would be best to confide in. If they have half an hour to listen to you. Be patient with them. They don't know how hurt you are yet. And if they ask you what happened, you can say you are not ready to talk about that right now.

Don't, don't keep it to yourself. But do bear in mind that if you can't talk to her directly, you can always ask her for the cash to take a self-defence course. You don't have to go into details, but it's something that might save you from over-reacting to pleasant people you meet later in life, and give you confidence in your own space.

Remember also - it might help - that all the cells in your body are renewed every seven years.

Answer 3

***do NOT call 911*** you are NOT in immediate danger.
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Tell you mother. And your step-dad if you are close to him.
Tell your closest friend. But tell someone-you have to give it a voice and let out your sadness..this will take a long time to heal. Ask to go to see a counselor if you think it would help. Or there might be someone at church that will help.
But, (out of personal experience) you may or may not get the reaction that you are looking for because they don't know what do do to help. Or they may even be in denial about what a big deal it is. And it is a big deal-don't let anyone tell you otherwise or say that you just need to get over it.
Tell them how to help you. Tell them that while he is out of your life now you are hurting really bad and don't know what to do-that you need their support to get through it. You need to talk about it.

Answer 4

Tell someone. If you don't feel like you can tell your mom, then find someone else you can trust. Try talking to your grandparents, aunts or uncles, or even a teacher, but tell someone right away. You can't keep this to yourself. I feel so terrible for you, I wish I could do something. May God bless you and keep you safe.

Answer 5

911

Answer 6

first you better tell your mom, then let her take you to the police and press charges against the sicko. It could be a long process to get him behind bars, but he could be hurtin some other little girl like you. Tell someone soon before its too late

Answer 7

If you and your mom have a good relationship and you are not afraid to confide in her - TELL HER right away if not find another person that you trust who will help you tell your mom - either way it goes you are gonna have to tell your mom so that she can get you the help you need to cope with dealing with someone violating you. If you need some help or would like to talk some more please email me and I will help you tell your mom Okay? You don't have to deal with this alone

Answer 8

yes it will be a hard thing to do, but you have to do it, "tell" get him busted because he may be hurting another little Innocent right now and you can stop him. be strong you may be saving some one from going through this as you are....

Answer 9

tell your mother fast...because it could really hurt you in the long run...u will always have that mental image inside of your head....take it from someone who is around ur age (16) and that was molested twice and raped once recently.......or if you dont feel comfortable telling ur mother...tell the person that you trust and that is the closest to you.......GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

Is there any adult you feel you can trust and be comfortable to tell them? If so seek that person out. You need to tell someone maybe even your doctor he/she could help you further.