PLEASE READmy mom raised us as a single parent of seven she tried to teach us morals and values.she taught us that if we dont have nothing else in life that we had each other.we were very close UNTILL everything just changed,my oldest brother is 28 never moved out never really had a seriou job or kept one for that matter.and all of a sudden he start disrespecting her cussing in front of her and to her.talking loud and arguing with everybody but thats not the worst part the other night he was standing in front of my grandmas house late at night rapping real loud standing by the street and he didnt stop because my mom pulled up it seems as if he just got louder because we pulled up,anyway when she got out the car she went to him to give him a hug and asked him whats wrong and he pushed her off of him,so i jumped out and we were about to fight the police came,my mom was crying and so hurt i was too anyway i told him he needs to go to church and he said **** church what could be wrong?????
2006-08-11 17:59:44 · 15 answers · asked by minnie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
acouple of months ago we took him to a clinic...to have him checked out for problems they just gave him high blood presure pills and sent him home...they say he didnt have any drugs in his system...but thats hard to believe.he's like dr.jeckel and mr.hyde
2006-08-11 18:03:16 · update #1
Has he ever acted like this before? It sounds as if your brother could be using drugs, or he could be presenting with a mental illness (some do not present until later in life, schizophrenia comes to mind) Either way he needs to be treated but unfortunately that may be difficult. Next time cops get involved tell them calmly that you think he is mentally ill and you think he should be taken to a hospital to be evaluated. You also have to tell them that you think that he may hurt himself or someone else They are supposed to take him straight to the hosp when you tell them that, or you can check into having him committed to a treatment center I believe you have to have two people go to the courts and plead your case to a judge and they will put them in a facility for evaluation and then decide from there what treatment (if any) the person may need either way it sounds as if he is in a really bad place and needs some help.
2006-08-11 18:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your brother has serious problems, and your family needs to not try to enable his life anymore. I have a sister who has been like this most of her life. She is now in her 50s, and has nothing but the streets she lives on.
As cruel as it sounds, the only person you can change is you.
So talk with your mom, and help her understand. Ask if there is a community counsellor, who might aid the two of you. Your bro will not be ble to climb out of what he is in if he keeps taking the time to push the two of you away. Sometimes people must hit rock bottom and then some before they turn their lives around.
Maybe he wants to do it on his own for some self image thing. If anyone keeps helping, they will only delay it. He might never do it if there is always someone to help pick him up.
2006-08-12 01:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Too Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to convince your brother to see a mental health professional. Of course only he can make this decision!! Sounds like he has some serious issues going on and if its not drugs it could be something in his brain..what us mental health professionals call a chemical imbalance. There are many different things a psychiatrist psychologist and even a social worker can do. Do your best to support him and the situation he's going through that might help give him the push to get the help he needs!! Good Luck!!
2006-08-12 01:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jayse'sMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother is probably on drugs. They tend to get violent and mad at the world when they do drugs, well my sister did anyway. She started disrespecting my parents and hit my mom that just had a hip replacement and can barely walk and it took her like 6 months to finally tell someone what the problem is. When ppl are on that stuff they dont care about anyone but themselves. My sister found out she was pregnant but didnt stop using drugs and now she's had two miscarriages. The next time your brother comes close to hittin you or your mom, then call the police and have them take him to jail and have your mom to talk to someone bout givin him a drug test. If he is on drugs then your mom could probably sign papers and send him to rehab.
Hope this helps and tell your bro. to get a life and be a man
2006-08-12 01:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not drugs, the is a result of your brother's own failures and disappointments in himself. He knows what your mother has done for him and he resents that he hasn't returned the favor. It's never too late for him to straighten up but the fact is, he's not going to until he comes to terms with what's eating him up inside. Going to church is fine and well, but until he wakes up and sees that his failures are destroying him, church will have no effect on him. Best of luck with this... try to deal with it in such a way that he doesn't feel the world has turned against him. He wasted 28 years. He has to feel that he can fix that and that he will have support from all of you... as hard as it may be for you to do that right now.
2006-08-12 01:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by cardesiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is 28 he may be relizing he is a man.He probally don't know how to handle the responabilitys that come with that.You said he never had a serious job,he may be having problems with friends or a girlfriend,or maybe since it was just your mom raising all of yall he just don't know how to be the man and thats what he wants.Tell your mom my hats off to her sounds like she has done a hell of a job with all 7 of you.
2006-08-12 01:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he had a complete evaluation with blood work and a shrink? It sounds like he is frustrated with life, maybe he needs to be encouraged to move out and gain some independence and feel better about himself. Sometimes people lash out at the ones trying to help (or enabling) them. Think he needs a dose of what the real world is like before she is housing him a girlfriend and a child. He needs to buck up and get checked out so that he can check back in to his life
2006-08-12 01:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by kimbolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I may get trashed for saying this... but in my honest opinion... sounds to me like drugs. Ok... now before everyone starts attacking me really think about it. The sudden change in behavior?
You mother is right in teaching morals and values, so many parents are caught up in their own lives now that they fail to teach their children these important lessons in life.
Feel free to contact me through messenger if you wanna talk.
Good Luck and I will pray for you and your family.
2006-08-12 01:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by brown_eyez_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going through alot of ppl in there life go through most likely girls but its a boy dis time. Has he lost anyone in the fmaily his father? His girlfriend broke his heart? ANything u know personal about him? if so this shall help u find out and gain more information. I would do a family meeting thats what i would do.
2006-08-12 01:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by London qirl . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just not have had any drugs in his system at that time. that doesn't mean he isn't doing them. Maybe he just feel the world is giving him a 'bad rap' so he is rebelling against everything.
2006-08-12 01:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋