Ok, so i've been dateing this guy for 6 months, and i really really love him, like i think he's the one, and he feels the same way. And he really likes kids...he's good with them. So he wants some of his own. But about 3 years ago, i got diagnosed with this diease that only elderly people get, Glaucoma...and i'm only 16 (And that's not normal for a 16 year old to get glaucoma)---so, i know that if i have kids...it's a BIG change that they will have it too...and I went through ALOT with my eyes, and i've had 3 surgury's on them, I'm blind a lil in one eye, and I have to take all these eye drops...and it sux, and i really don't want my kids going through that...I wouldn't want to see them in the pain i went through...and my boyfriend knows about my glaucoma...but i don't think he understands that our kids would have it also...I want to tell him, because i think it would be respectful...but i'm scared of what he'll think...what should i do?!
2006-08-11 17:53:23 · 11 answers · asked by Nanner♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not what u want to hear but flat out, you gotta be honest with this guy. honesty is the most important thing in a relationship, cant exist without it. and trust me, its a lot better knowin the truth early on than puttin it off. and yeah theres a chance your kids could inherit it, but its not definite. you need to explain this to your guy and if he cares about you as much as you obviously care about him, than you have nothing to worry about. trust me, youll feel a lot better once youve sat down and talked about this with your guy. you know what you need to do. be honest; hell appreciate you for that
2006-08-11 18:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by af4sguy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At16, it's interesting to see how insightful you are. You take chances every day and I can see why you are worried about this; however, if it's not a 100% thing I would say you will eventually become comfortable and want to have a family of your own. Just a little side note, my husband was diagnosed with cancer at 25! He was told that there was a huge chance that he would never have kids, so we figured that we were not having kids. But we just had a little boy 6 weeks ago!! I was sooooooo scared in the begining thinking that he was going to have some genetic disorder or something and I worried my whole pregnancy. My son came out perfect and we couldn't ask for more!! So in saying all this, just know that we take chances everyday but only God knows what you can handle!! Good Luck!!!
2006-08-11 18:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jayse'sMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your doctor first about the chances of your kids getting it. its actually very rare if they get it. you can get exact chances from your doctor thouygh because he knows your particular medical history. you dont have to discuss this with your bf yet you are only 16 and been together 6 months. the possibilty of kids should be a long way off anyway. you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and are considering how your kids will be affected. if you are still together in 6 more months then talk to him. good luck and take care of yourself. i say go to your doctor first also becvause i am a nurse and know you should discuss your concerns with your physician
2006-08-11 18:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it will pass on to your kids. Do some research on it. I wouldnt give up on having kids though it is the most wanderful experience you will ever go through. Dont hide anything from him it will just put a strain on your relationship
2006-08-11 17:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. If he truly loves you he will understand. I don't know much about the disease but you can do research together and see what are you're options as far as having kids go.
2006-08-11 17:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Still Halloween 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 16 you shouldn't be thinking about kids period. go be a teenager and have fun and stress over this when you and your husband want to have kids several years from now. good luck.
2006-08-11 18:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows about somewhat of it then i am sure he will understand the problem ur going through. just talk 2 him if he luvs u like u say he does then he wud understand 100% and not change his thoughts about u.
2006-08-11 17:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to let him know. If he walks over this, you will thank yourself later. But if he stays, he's a real man!
2006-08-11 17:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go out and come back then say well honey i came out with...is there a problem with that just be truthful
2006-08-11 17:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by awesome_shopping_freak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him, theres no two ways about it
2006-08-11 17:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋