How much do you tell a 4 year old where babies come from ??

Question

My daughter is 4 she came home from a visit from my ex asking a ton of questions on where do babies come from ..

She is pretty smart and knows when you not telling her everything..

She was born by csection ..

How much is to much without going into graphic detail ??

Answer 1

I told all 4 of mine that an angle came down when Mommy was sleeping and touched my belly and made a baby with all of Mommy's love.

Answer 2

Tell them the truth... maybe not how you have sex, but exactly where they come from is a good idea. It is a horrible thing to lie to a child about something that is natural and not to be ashamed of... its kind of like parents who teach their children that to say "penis" is naughty and they should say "penie" or something of the like instead.... all that does is create problems later on down the road. She should already know that she has a vagina and boys don't and know the proper words for them.

Here's what I would and will do when my child is old enough. I will explain that whole man and a woman love eachother a whole lot they have sex (I don't plan on explaining sex, but if they ask, I'll explain it is a dance, since that is true, that only mommy and daddy do together which is a white-lie), then the man's seed goes into the woman's uterus to grow and become a baby. The baby stays in there for 9 months and then comes out the woman's vagina. I will use pictures from an encyclopedia if necessary. It's better to keep straight with your kid from the begining... I mean, what are you going to tell her when she starts her period?
By the way, you should explain the mechanics of a period before she starts it. If it comes early, 9 or 10 yrs old like mine did, she might think she's sick and dying, like I did.

I hated my parents everytime I found out they lied to me about things that are basic, happen to everyone, are natural, and are not to be ashamed about. I wouldn't talk to them for weeks, and when I got older, I'd throw it in their face that they were liars and take off... I was a bit more dramatic than the average child... but I wouldn't want to risk lying to my kid.

Answer 3

Check this book out, "Baby on the Way". It shows pics of baby inside mommy's tummy. Also, remember she may really be asking a very simplistic question - first tell her they come home from the hospital where they're born. If that doesn't satisfy her and she asks more, tell her they come from mommy's tummy. If she asks for more, tell her how baby stays in mommy's tummy till it's big enough to come out. Etc. Sometimes we make more of a big deal out of their questions than they intended. Only give more details if she wants it. And she will definitely want more details as she gets older, but may be satisfied with a really simple answer, like, 'Babies come from God" right now.

Answer 4

4 is too young for the entire truth. Tell her that babies grow in their Mommy's belly. When it's time to come out, a doctor helps them get out of Mommy's belly. If she asks how the baby got there, tell her that the mommy and the daddy love each other very much, and the baby is a sign of their love. That worked for our daughter, who is extremely inquisitive. If she seems unsatisfied, try diverting her attention. Good luck!

Answer 5

Well Ive always been very careful with my smart one ,lol. Its tricky and I know this sounds weird to some but basically I told her to think of a baby as a plant or apple. The seed is planted and then it grows and you can pick the flower, or what not. That someone magically planted a baby seed in mommys tummy and the baby grew and the doctors picked it. I know its sounds a little weird, but mine believed it.

Answer 6

Wait till the 4 year old turns about 8 1/2 then talk about the birds and the bees.

Answer 7

Be honest but vague. Young children may ask sophisticated questions but simple answers work. When a child asks where a baby comes from they may settle for something as simple as My tummy. But how'd I get there? You started off as a little egg inside of me. As they get older you can get in more detail. Be simple, straightforward, and honest. Four years olds are smart but they think differently than adults. Think of the answers they give you.

Answer 8

We told our daughters that they come from "down there". Until my daughters were about 5 and 6 then I showed them the video of them being born and that answered everything. And if asked how they were made, we told them that God helped Mommy and Daddy make them out of love.

Answer 9

Tell her they come from your belly. My sister is 8 months pregnant and she has a 3 year old. We just tell her that the baby is going to come out of her mommie's belly. When she asks how it got there we tell her that her daddy put it in there untill the baby is big enough to come out.

Answer 10

I think that your 4 year old should not know exactly where babies come from until she is about 10 or 11 years old. I think for now you need to tell her that babies comes from mom and dad. That mom and dad make babies together.