my son is 17 months and will not sleep by himself its 12:10 at night at he wont go to sleep cause he tinks im going to lay him down any ideas
2006-08-11 17:15:09 · 14 answers · asked by josie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Lay him down, rub his back gently for about sixty seconds. Tell him you'll be right back. Leave the room for about ten seconds and return. Rub his back again for about sixty seconds, and tell him you'll be right back. Leave the room for about thirty seconds. Each time leave for a little longer time. In no time he'll be asleep.
It's merely a security issue with him. Once he sees you're returning, he'll happily fall asleep.
2006-08-11 17:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take control of the situation now while he is so young. He knows if he throws a fit than you will lay with him and he will not go to sleep. If he starts to cry then let him cry. Make him go to sleep and continue to put him in his room everytime he gets up. Do not give in and each day it will get easier. The most important part is to let him know that you are in charge. Cut off caffeine and sweets after a certain time during the day so he is not up all night. Start making him go to bed around 9:30 in the evening if possible. Get him on a schedule and he will start getting sleepy earlier in the night.
2006-08-12 00:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Julis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem because I did not do the thing of letting my daughter cry it out when she was an infant. (because of where we were living at the time, I couldn't let her cry). Do not let him get in the habit of sleeping with you. I did and at 5 she will still get up in the middle of the night and come into my bed. ( We are working on that). The advice of quite a few of letting him cry is very sound. Also of making sure you watch the diet, getting plenty of excerise during the day and a good routine. The earlier you wake him up in the morning, eventually will be earlier to bed.
Also make sure you make some quiet one-on-one time with him to help with any insecurity problems. YOu have to take charge and stay in charge now, or the behavior will only get worse over time. They learn quick how to play you, you just have to stay quicker.
2006-08-12 00:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the 'it's time for bed in a few minutes' thing. Jammies, brush teeth, book, cuddle, then put him in the crib, blow him a kiss, and shut the door. Let him cry. He will stop, he will fall asleep, and everyone will be better off for it.
I'm sorry to hear about the parent who lost a child. Nothing can be harder in life than living after that has happened. However, it does more harm than good to allow your child to sleep in your bed. She has selfish reasons for sleeping with her child, not self-less. To quote the good Rabi from 'Shalome in the Home', your bedroom should be Fort Knox.
2006-08-12 00:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay him down and let him cry. That's the only way I could get my 18 month old to go to be by himself. I put a baby monitor in his room so I would feel better in case.
2006-08-12 00:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Somebody Somewhere 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I actually watched an episode on Dr. Phil about this. They called in a few specialists too. Consistency. Don't give in, you set the rules and guildlines and children can learn to follow rules well even at 6 months of age, believe it or not. I don't know if this is what you're looking for, but it's been what I've been hearing. Hope something helps you.
2006-08-12 00:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my daughter. During the day when she fell asleep I moved her into her crib. At night after she feel asleep i did the same thing. It will take awhile for them to get use to it, but he will start. Another thing to do is to put him in his crib and let him cry for a little while and not pick him up just rub his back to settle him down and keep trying it that way.
2006-08-12 00:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by babymamma0206 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either stay the night on the couch with him on my chest (hey, at least you'll both get some sleep), or you can lay him down and let him cry until he falls asleep. They have to learn it sometime,
2006-08-12 00:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by bj_headley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i put a t.v in my sons room and gave him a strand of christmas lights that get to go on only at night. Worked for me. Make it a fun bedroom that he wants to stay in.
2006-08-12 00:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him to lay down and you'll read him a book or two
2006-08-12 00:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋