My son is dating a girl that just broke up with a guy who is threatening him (along with his cousins) on myspace.com. I just sent him a reply (without my son knowing) that I would beat the **** out of him if he came near our house. He is threatening to tear up our son's car that we just worked so hard to finish fixing up. I know I can't do anything to a minor, but I am so angry at these kids because they will not leave him alone. Please help.
2006-08-11 16:55:20 · 51 answers · asked by Denise C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, first of all..have your son set his MySpace page to private so these JERKS can't touch him on there.... Second..I would ask to girlfriends folks if they have any contact info for these guys' folks and then take it up with them. Give them the chance to straighten up their kid...and if they still are comin after em...then by all means....keep all records and go to the police.
Don't you have any friends that are younge enough to beat their bum for ya????? Or friends kids?? Anything? Personally.... I think my (oldest) son would probably have already beaten him down. But thats just the area we live in..beat or get beat.
Good luck!
2006-08-11 17:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost. Do not threaten him back on my space. If he thinks the message is from your son, it will just fuel the fire. The same thing happened to my son. A 18 year old senior was talking smack about my son who was 16 at the time. I really had to stay out of it although I wanted to knock him out. Keep the emails that he has posted on my space.It will show proof that he was the one threatening to destroy the car should something ever happen to it. Otherwise you will have no proof. Also, if you have a garage, have him park in there at night. As for my son, he was on the varsity football team and lifted weights.(need I say more) He opted to never stand down and never be intimidated. The whole incident just vaporized over time. If it gets worse and actual threats of violence occur to your sons person, then you can always file a police report. I will be honest and tell you that during the incident with my son, I asked his cousin who is 6 ft and 260 pounds of nothing but muscle to drive by the high school every day after school to make sure my son made it out of the parking lot safely. Of course he does'nt know that!!!!!!!!
2006-08-11 17:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by bellamonster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sending threats over the internet can also be judged as a way to take your sorry self to jail. Why are you getting involved with the drama? If your son wants to get involved with a female that can't shake her last boyfriend, he is PUTTING HIMSELF IN THE LINE OF FIRE. So put the car away or sell it - because if these dorks know where you live, consider the car toast. I would suggest removing your nasty posts and grow up -- because if the boy is smart enough, he can print it out and show it to the cops and guess who'll be embarrassed? Your son, because you are getting involved in the teen drama. Talk to the parents if the other boy has any, and print out the threats if he's sent any, and file a report with the cops ASAP so something's on file in case something really does happen to you, your home, your son or the car. That's the best you can do.
2006-08-11 16:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say your family has ties with the mafia or bikie gang, have a tuff person you know aproach this kid to tell them nicely that this is not a good idea. Other wise tell the police and ring there parents, if they are good parents they will sort the kid out. Some times the best thing is for the person being picked on is to stand up and fight back, people only pick on some one cos' they think there an easy target, don't be an easy target, once some one fights back there is a respect about that. l see this all the time, l once was a bully. Most of all don't live in fear!
2006-08-11 17:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok they're doing this in writing and you have proof. WHY DIDN'T YOU FILE A POLICE REPORT?? OMG you could have totally printed that off and it would have been open and shut... Do you know what you've done? You can't report it now! Who cares about the car, they have potential to end your son's life!
Do you realize you just threatened a minor?? Do you know how much trouble YOU are going to get into for this? THINK! You can't threaten bodily harm against a child, it carries far more consequences than these kids will get for their threats against your son.
2006-08-11 17:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Print the threats and bring it into the police. If you can't do anything maybe you can at least get a restraining order. Then if came around the house he could be put in jail. Set up camera's outside the house so that if he messes up the car, you'll have proof.
I've had a friend with a similar problem and if you don't have proof of anything, there's just nothing that you can do. Hope it works out!
2006-08-11 16:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by sobefobik 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do one of two things, first copy what he is printing off the internet and turn it over to the authorities there has to be some kind of law covering threats of bodily harm. Secondly, you could ignore him but I don't think it will be that easy. Just don't allow your son to drop to his level and threaten him or be drawn into fight with this guy, your son will come out the better man in the end.
2006-08-11 17:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a case about my myspace...your an adult and you could get into trouble for threatening someone publicly... but since it is not personally you profile..you should be okay.. you can go to the police and they will turn it over to the states attorneys office.. as was my case.. which I won by the way.. but those involved will be charged with harassment and threats and face fines and maybe jail time.. but just keep track of everything you do on myspace of what you see others post..I won my case because of the freedom of speach issue and the state declined to prosecute... although I did not threaten anyone...just go to the police.. they will handle everything from there. best of luck.
2006-08-11 17:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by t c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the proof of them threatening your son on myspace. Print it off and go see the police. These things have a way of escalating. A visit from the cops to the kids home with their parents will put an end to it.
Good Luck!
2006-08-11 16:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I would tell him to get off line and stay off line. There better things for a young boy to do then be on line.
Next I would go to the court house and get a restraining order on the other boy.
3ed The boy is to young to be that serious over a girl. I would tell him to break up with her . He thinks he is in love and the next thing you know you will be a grand mother.
Then they won't want to get married and he will pay suport for a child for a long time.
Or if they do get married they will hate each other.
I would tell him he has the rest of his life to fall in love with a girl . So dump her and after things cool off if the girl really liked him she will come back.
2006-08-11 17:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋