2006-08-11 16:49:23 · 17 answers · asked by moose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd rather get to know the person before I start dating them- that way, I already am comfortable around them. I am a very private person and I don't open myself completely to someone as we first start dating- so, in my opinion, be friends- you get to know them enough to decide if your willing to make a committment to them
2006-08-11 16:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by kmrelo04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cut to the chase, you have no solid basis of anything comfortable and familiar so If you really think this person is someone you want to make an impression on and they seem like they want a SERIOUS relationship, then cutting to the chase may turn them off, because it may seem to that you only want them for what you can get, and then once you get it, you are going, going...gone.
however if you are FRIENDS first...if you find it hard to keep it friendly then...THEN CUT TO THE CHASE!
2006-08-11 23:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always interpreted "freinds first" is a euphemism for "no sex on the first date." I wouldn't treat a woman I was courting as a friend, a potential romantic parter deserves much better! I try harder, am more considerate, flexible, and forgiving than I would be with ordinary friends. Courtship is a higher plane, so to speak. If you try to be "friends first" the romantic tension is quickly lost, resulting in the awkwardness of trying to hold hands with one of your "gal pals" of many years.
2006-08-12 00:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ordinary guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you're after...
For intense, physical flings, the mystery of the other person can make it fun.
But if you're on the market for a serious relationship, it's better to get to know the other person so you're not just making a dating decision based on surface attraction. Just don't wait too long -- once you're in a comfortable friendship, it can be hard to switch to romance.
2006-08-11 23:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will prefered friends before dating. Because You woundn't want to ruin a friendship that is a strong bond
2006-08-11 23:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by problemsolver86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting out of a 2 yr relationship and we had intercourse first and just kept the fling going,next he moved in and i was pregnant and now everything is going down hill, thats my point be friends first, then see if it works out to become lvrs
2006-08-11 23:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think friends first. Or at least get to know him better!
2006-08-11 23:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends most definately. me and my current boyfriend were great friends first so i know so much about him already. i can honestly say its the best relationship i have ever had.
2006-08-11 23:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by lil' mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think cutting straight to the chasd. the fun and exciting thing bout dating someone if finding out and learning who they are and whether or not you actually like them. being friend first kind of removes this step. and all there is to build with is sex and commitment.
2006-08-11 23:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not being good friends as this always ruins a great friendship!!
2006-08-11 23:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋