I always said id safe myself for marrige and 2night I broke that, I had sex with a guy and then less than an hour later he ditched me, i have so many feelings going thru me right now, hate, anger, sadness, ,betrayal I wanna kill him and cry my eyes out at the same time, I knew all he wanted was sex but i did it anyway , why was I so stupid?
2006-08-11 16:43:39 · 33 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It must have been all of the distraction. People do stupid things. In this case. If it was something you didn't want to do, then likely you were distracted enough to not consider two steps ahead. I suppose it was all the crap he was talking that was this distraction in this case?
Stay in control, maintain sight of your goals, even in short term events. And never, ever, do something to just to fit in or to make someone like you. By doing that one thing, you will automatically lose.
Take better care of yourself.
2006-08-13 17:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a virgin, but you are not stupid, you just got caught up in the middle. You didn't know what was gonna happen so you just did it. But you can't forget it happens to a lot of young girls, its easier said than done but, right now it already happend. But that doesn't mean you can't stop it from happening again, your Virginity is your most precious thing, but you can make yourself celebate(abstinece of sex) untill marriage. Guys are the most cruel, but all you can do is recoup your emotions and learn from your mistake! Talk to a real good friend or even your mom about it, you will feel better once you've explained it to someone you care for dearly because they will help you understand and give you much better advice! But remember God is on your side and things will get better in time, I promise!
2006-08-11 16:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have our weak moments wherein we make mistakes. If we never made mistakes in our lives we would never learn from them. Take all those feelings you are feeling and release them in a safe and constructive matter such as writing everything that is bothering you down. Ultimately, figure out what you have learned from this lesson and the things you can do to avoid being caught in a similar situation again.
2006-08-11 16:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by larceny'sghost 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You broke your own promise.. I guess it was tempting and you couldn't stop your feelings. Some time to feel some pleasure huh? That's what all guys want, they want sex... Not me, I want love. I'm too young to say it for myself, I'm turning 16 in like three weeks so yeah. I guess you'll learn from your mistakes... so you won't make them again. Never take a guy for granted. Nothing is ever guaranteed. Love is more important than sex, in my view at least. Love conquers the desire for sex.
2006-08-11 16:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, its okay..your not stupid.. and its okay to have all those angry thoughts, but next time you will know when its right and not just because the guy pressured you into it.. you will know later in life when you put your all into your love for another person and that person will accept that of you.. by then you will realize that you had no true feelings for that other person. Its okay as long as you realize your full heart and soul was not into it. you will know what that is later in life. Im sorry.
2006-08-11 16:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by t c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at yourself as stupid, now that sex has happened, just think about how it was, or was it worth waiting till marriage for.
You should not waste your life being depressed about this, you should learn from this, it will make you a stronger person.
I suggest that you talk to a counselor, to help you get over this and understand that life will be just fine and so will you.
2006-08-11 16:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax Dear. You gave in to the need for acceptance and validation of your being desirable to guys.
You are not the first and will not be the last.
Just try to let it go and learn from the experience.
You are just fine and everything will be OK.
I will send you something for your B'Day coming up, if you will accept.
Good Luck in school this year.
2006-08-11 16:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by manofadvntr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got weak! Don't hate yourself! YOU'RE NOT A WHORE!
Please don't say, oh well and keep going now because of this!
You had a weak moment! WE ARE ALL HUMAN and All do Very Stupid things!
I have done Many! More than I care to recall!!!!!
Okay?! :)
PS-Don't EVER talk to this person again!
2006-08-11 16:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it was probably justa heat of the moment kind of thing... like an addiction...u like the way he made u feel then and u wanted to intensify that feelin so u were willing to do whatever to mke that happen... even if it went against ur personell beliefs... i think talkin with some good trusted girlfriends ill be a lot of help
2006-08-11 16:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey baby girl! Omg i know exactly how you feel. You should feel gross, and sad and mad, those are good feelings to have. Let him know how much he hurt you. Even consider therapy, just so you can say how badly he ****** you over. Make sure everyone knows if they do already that he sweet talked you into it. Cry, you need to, its healthy and you wont feel better until you do. Maybe you secretly wanted to experience, and you figured ok i like him, he likes me and maybe this will help things. It usually dosen't, and im sorry this happend to you. If you need more advice feel free to email me i will be ther fore you in a heart beat!
2006-08-11 16:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ale[x]andra Aristocrat 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋