A man and i were talking for a long time on line.. we met.. we started to have a sexual relationship.. he called me every night for a month.. he talked about us and " working to geather to get the kind of future we both want" and talked about winter and needing to get wood for his fireplace for us in the winter.. etc.. like a future here.. He had my hopes up and then poof.. gone.. no calls.. no i.m or mails..nothing.. just poof.. no fight or disagreement either.. i know after a month he is gone but.. how in the heck could i have stopped this before he got under my skin?.. now I miss him.. he spoiled me...I feel so dumb and i am almost 50 years old
2006-08-11 16:21:11 · 9 answers · asked by Ibdreamin099 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are going to find this kind of jerks everywhere! on the net and out there...guys are so interested in sex that they dont care about our feelings...we get involved too fast and more if they call us and make us feel gret..so..dont blame yourself...it wasnt your fault..if he is a crazy asshole is not your fault! im sure he had this all planed and he just did it...
you need to get over him and think that you enjoyed the relationship and that you spent a nice time with him
is not good to think all the time what you should done to change things...
2006-08-11 16:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey., im so sorry- but u know what- take it as a lesson learned- and just think if u were together what other unpleasant surprises mite have come along.. i know easier said than done but do whatever it takes to move on.. be strong- this is the best time2 fovcus on you- join a gym to build ur confidence and keep busy, or smthng like that and in time you know u will look back and think how foolish- the less time u waste on this, the better for you. be strong dear and keep busy- do whatever it takes to forget him. love, amanda
2006-08-11 23:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think he used you. I wish I could tell you something wonderful to get over him but reality is you have to move on, and not by replacing him. Work on improving yourself and making yourself come first. I walked a few miles here and there and began reading again, Find things to keep you busy. At first you'll feel angry and then miss him but staying busy and putting yourself first will help your spirits. Good luck!
2006-08-11 23:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a cruel place.... There is no way to tell. Trust me on that. Some guys are very good at what they do. I admit I used to promise the world and then change my mind in a flash and quit talking to that person. Welcome to the club. I think everybody gets that done to them. If not yet then it will probally happen sooner or later. I dont do it anymore, cause what goes around comes around.................
2006-08-11 23:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds normal to me. Men do things like that- you should know that by now. Don't take it personally, you may not know what is really on his mind or what is going on in his personal life. Perhaps the fear of commitment has gotten the best of him. Don't take it personally and try not to let the situation take your hope away.
2006-08-11 23:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing except im 15 and im not into that whole sexual thing yet. but yah.. he lied and said he cared and took it all back in an instant.
but to tell ya the truth.. i really dont know. but they can trick you so much into believing them that you'll take anthing that they say and you'd believe them or him. the way i see it there really, really good liers.
2006-08-11 23:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Scarlet5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys have feelings? that's news to me.
can't believe you are 50 and still fall for the oldest trick in the book.
2006-08-11 23:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by erk m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you contacted him to see if he is ok?????
If he is ok, then it sounds like he just wanted some nookie. Oh and if ur trying to understand men....... pleaseeee let me know if you ever do!
2006-08-11 23:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not gonna read all that, my advice is to just keep sleeping with him
2006-08-11 23:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by addictivehabits01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋