ok, i found out that my dad smokes and i HATE it. He never smoke in front of me but i can still smell cigarette and i found ashes in the bin. I tried binning all the cigarettes that i found and leaving notes telling him to quit but nothing works. Are there other ways of stopping him exept talking to him face to face (yes i dun have the courage)? I really really want him to stop soon cause the side affects are starting to show. HELP!!!!!
2006-08-11 16:06:59 · 20 answers · asked by ~One Of A Kind~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start leaving non-smoking material around. And in your notes, have you phrased it like this:
" Dad, I really love you and I think you love me. I want you around to see me graduate, to walk me down the aisle when I get married and to be a grandfather to my children. I want to do more than tell my kids what a great dad I had, I want them to know you. And none of that will happen if you keep smoking. What can I do to help you stop?"
2006-08-11 16:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all that is so good of you to be concerned about your father like that. Why don't you print some information about the effects of smoking off of the Internet, then print some information on ways to quit smoking also. This will not only show him your concern in a mature way but if you ask him if you can read it together it might also trigger a response from him to start setting a better example for you. Quitting is hard so be patient and helpful instead of demanding and accusing, Try to get more family members to help also. Good Luck.
2006-08-11 23:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by drea2892 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you have talked to your dad and that has not worked you have written notes that has not worked, I don't know how old you are but maybe its time for that "serious talk" where you look him in the eye and say " dad this is important to me I really want you to be there to see me grow up and it really bothers me that you smoke and also say that I know its hard to quit but I want to help you, you mean the world to me and you are the only dad that I have and It would mean alot to me if you would try and quit and if there is any thing I can do to help you than let me know" if that doesn't work honey than he is not ready. You may just have to put up with it until he thinks about it and he makes the decision to quit smoking. Trust me I have been through this with my kid and when he looks me in the eye and tells me something like that its hard to ignore.
2006-08-11 23:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your dad and he tries through many ways to become what he is today. I guess, when your daddy loves you and let you have your little corner and habits and goodies, He in turns, needs his goodies too. In this circumstances, He resort to smoke. some of the men I know do smoke ciggerette or cigar as part of the after dinner or relaxation. You should not stop him.
He is old enough to decide what he wants and maybe there are also something in work that is troubling him
Respect him as he does to you. He does not smoke in front of you right. so I guess you should let go on this and stop fighting over his needs and be a selfish brag
2006-08-11 23:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I've had an uncle that smokes and he still doesn't stop even after the side effect. It's a craving that will never stop. You have to tell him how his smoking makes you feel. If he doesn't stop try getting him into a rehab center so they can help him stop. You may try the nicotine gum or patches.
2006-08-11 23:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by thecookiemonster_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, pretend to smoke yourself by holding an unlit cigarette in your lips. B4 doing this, just let your other family members know so that they will not be shocked.
If your dad confronts you, the trick works bec you can tell him you are learning from him. This may drive him to quit smoking if he cares about you.
2006-08-12 11:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by Phantom of the Opera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time for him to quit smoking completely. maybe he's trying to smoke less now? that's y the side effects r showing? if he's not, i guess the best way is by talking to him. if care for him, you need not be afraid of talking to him regarding this issue. he's your dad!!! most imptly is to find out y he's smoking? is he facing some stress in work or other stuff?? talk to him and show that you care for him! i'm sure he will understand. gd luck=)
2006-08-11 23:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by wOo® 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll have been smoking for about 30 years and managed to quit smoking for nearly 1 year. Smoking is an unexplainable pleasure, where it is of very, very difficult to quit. Since he is your father, tolerate him and he is just like me before. Hopefully, he can quit and only he, himself can do it. Others cannot influence him to stop smoking, I'll serious because I'll been through it.
2006-08-11 23:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to but the best thing would be to just let your father know that it bothers you for him to smoke because you care about him and see how it's affecting him. He many not stop-you can't make someone do something, you can just let them know how it affects you. Good luck!
2006-08-11 23:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by cancrew77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart with him and tell him that you love him and you want to keep him here as long as possible and tell him that you see the affects and it's worrying you. Doing things such as throwing them out will more than likely cause him to act stubborn.
2006-08-11 23:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by VL MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋