The love of my life moved away 4 years ago.I never stopped loving him. i still love him.He came back at the beg of this year&we started talking on the phone&being friends. He was always telling me how much he doesnt want a gf now &he wants time to find himself.(he is 23,am22)
At first I was calling him all the time, but over the last couple of months it got mutual&we became really good friends talking almost everyday. .
Everything was ok until I got really drunk&told him that i still Loved him last week.He wasnt really surprised&told me that he would marry me rite now, but he needs to find himself first&said if i would wait for him until he comes back from his 1year teaching english in japan he would be a lucky guy.
I texted him that i dont want to talk to him anymore.he called me twice since then. I didnt pick up.
I dont want him to think that i will always be there waiting for him. I want him to miss me& ask me if i we can talk, but he stopped callin. Should i call or let it go
2006-08-11 15:55:26 · 7 answers · asked by Armenianchick1978 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the guy's only 23... it's not so surprising that he wants to get out and have some life experiences without being tied down in a serious relationship. He probably does care about you, but it sounds like he's just not in a spot where he feels ready to commit to someone.
Unfortunately, you can't do anything about it except let him go off and figure his life out. Maybe if and when he comes back, he'll see you in a different light.
I don't suggest waiting around for him, though. It's impossible to say where life will take people, and there's always the chance he could find someone else or not move back again. Go on with your own life, meet other guys (there's always the chance you'll find someone better suited for you, and if you don't, no harm in lookin'). If your old flame comes back into your life or doesn't come back into it, then that's just the way the cards come up.
Just let him go do his thing and try to stay friends. If he misses you, he'll call... maybe not right away, but he will. If he doesn't... well, maybe you two weren't meant for each other. Unfortunately, 22-23 is still a bit young, IMO, for finding the "love of your life". In my 31 years, I've found (and unfound) the love of mine twice now. Still lookin'...
2006-08-11 16:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone needs to find themselves. Let him go to Japan. That doesn't mean you can't date around, although you would have to tell him you are doing so. When he gets back in a year, and I doubt you will have married by then, reconnect. If the feelings are still there, then you can decide what to do next.
However, if he didn't say he loved you in return, I'd be questionable about that.
Sometimes, love hurts. But true love is wanting what is best and happiest for the other person, even if that means you can't be there to share it with them.
Live, love, and most of all, be.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-11 16:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by cadence_lost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were looking for yourself where is the first place you'd look? In the mirror? Come on, this old hippie stuff about finding who you are went out with the Grateful Dead and LSD. If this guy loved you he'd be with you come Hades or High water. If I were you I'd"move on down the line"
2006-08-11 16:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he said he needs to find himself what he meant is he wants to see what else is out there. He only wants you to wait for him in case he doesn't find someone else. I think that you should tell him how you feel and get some closure or you will regret it.
2006-08-11 15:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, he's taking the cowards way out! let him go, he's being a friggin coward. he's not worth it honey, there are more fish in the sea. he wants to swim in another pond. he'll be back when he realizes that there are no better fish out there! and don't take him back!
2006-08-11 16:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by mizz_kitty_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him call him call him that is all i half to say. dont let this guy go or he will never come back now get off the enternet and call you're man
2006-08-11 16:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shdu give him time and just let him know that u may not be there forever
2006-08-11 15:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋