My sister J,is my only sister. We are close in
age. Anyway,she was with a man who was
verbally abusive to her,especially in private
she said,and very controlling and jealous.
He would get angry at her if even a male friend
would walk up and say hi' to her,or offer her
a helping hand with something. He blamed her
for all his problems and for every time they
had a fight.
He's left before and then called her apologizing
several days later. He's left again,but thank
the Good Lord she didn't live with him yet,
although he was working on that too!!!
She wants to move on with her life now,and
she's only known this man a few months,but
she fears he will return and doesn't want to
set him off again.
Does anyone have any good advise for me
to give her. She's my only sister out of many
brothers and I don't know how to help her.
She use to be so level headed,but she's
really confused right now. Any advise could
help her. Thank you all very much!!!
2006-08-11 15:53:54 · 6 answers · asked by slappingfox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm glad she has left him. i grow watching my dad get drunk and beat up my mom, and had shoot a gun at me also. im 40 now,but it had a big impact on my life. she need to report all that happens to police and get a restraining order on him.tell all that live near what he looks like,what he drives.then if any one see him at or around her or her home to call police.tell her do not take this lightly she could lose her life.ill keep her in my prayers.keep me up to date.
2006-08-12 02:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by bbbyrk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to stay focused and keep away and move forward, dont let him back into her life. I am in the process of getting away from an abuser, (mentally & physically) and once she gets involved with him and lives with him, you cant tell what will happen to her mentally and physically. He will drain her first mentally so she will not have any self-esteme, and then who knows. Seriuosly, it is a very dangerous situation and serious matter. If she needs someone to talk to, please have her e-mail me. Mine started the same way, I had broken ribs, was strangled, punched in the stomach, girl the list goes on. Tell her to run and not look back. Please watch her and keep giving her advise.
2006-08-11 23:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by ms.mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quick question, where are your brothers in all this? This is one of the things I miss about the old days. In the old days brothers would disappear this dude and the issue would be null. That is my advice for you, get the rest of the family involved.
2006-08-11 22:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am the same sitution because i was verbal abuse by my babyfather and i know how your sister feel mine have lefted me but he have also done things behind my back and he have threated everyguy that want to talk to me well i just say i really can't help her because i am the same sitution i hope she really stay away from himlike i am i hope this help good luck
2006-08-11 23:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by cowanelmo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut all contact.
She has to do this for awhile, until he finds a new victim.
PS Tell her to do a google search on 'narcissists.'
2006-08-11 23:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Katrine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep hers what you do you tell her to tell him in front of you that its over and she never wants to see him again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and an i mean it. then you step in front of her and say move on. shur you might need to call the cops. if you can you let him know that you will do any thing to proteckt her.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 its kind a last resort but you can coustem fit it to yor needs. you friends if you need them.
2006-08-11 23:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by brakedown61301 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋