obsessed with the guy to a point that i've called him way too many times that he's already mad
now i still want to call him to hear his voice, even though i know he will probably just get annoyed at me calling him
what should I do? how can i kill the urge of calling him???
i've tried to call my friends and talked to them, didn't work
2006-08-11 15:47:16 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
remember how you felt AFTER you made yet another phone call. That dissappointment and regret you felt after you called him and after he got mad...remember how you felt before you pick up the phone and ask yourself if you want to feel that again. If you do, then keep calling til he switches numbers on you or your served with a restraining order, or leave with some kind of dignity and erase his number from your memory. If he wants you, he will come to you. Then you can decide if he was worth the trouble.
2006-08-11 15:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to do with your time. When the urge hits to call him, tell yourself, not today, and get away from the phone. Do something else...get your nails done, listen to music, go out with friends. Meet more guys. After a day of not calling him, you'll feel strong enough to go another day...then a week passes, then another week. Trust me on this. I just went through the same thing. And if you believe in God, pray for strength.
2006-08-11 15:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by queenbeeincontrol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he mad at you then it's probably because he's just not that in to you. Which means he's into some other girl. You just have to think of how you'd feel to get lots of calls from a guy you wouldn't want calling you all the time. It's not pretty, or going to spare your feelings, but it's life, truth and one of many the things we just can't control. I'm sorry I can't be more comforting.
2006-08-11 16:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by golddigger360 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a life. I don't mean that sarcastically. Having your own life that is as important to you as the urge to call him you feel right now. That is the only way to make sure that when you are in a relationship it is not because you are clinging to it (and him) like a life raft but because it is enjoyable to you both. It will always be this way your whole, life no matter what man you are with, so get on with it. Get a life, without one you will NEVER have a relationship worth having.
2006-08-11 15:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself. It sounds like a serious obsession and you could be arrested for stalking or harassment. Obviously he doesn't want to talk to you or he would have called. Have some self respect and drop the guy from speed dial. If he does call you just act casual and don't go back to calling him all the time.
2006-08-11 15:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by penny12899 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many books available out there for
obsessive love,and love addiction you can buy,
but if you can control it yourself,just tell your-
self,how would you like it,especially if you are
not attracted to the person calling you alot?
many guys don't like to talk too long on the
phone,even when they do like the girl,but if
you keep calling this guy,you could for sure
lose his friendship,if you are even still that?
Try to get your mind off of him and onto
something fun,and do things that make you
feel good about you and being alive!!!
I hope this helps.
2006-08-11 16:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need some serious help, honey. Word gets around that you are re-enacting "Fatal Attraction" and most guys will be running in the other direction when they see you. Start working on you self-esteem. Find other interests, like that one that suggested you play some yahoo games. If you have a shred of self-respect left, leave him alone and get a life.
2006-08-11 15:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to call him until he gets really mad and calls the police or the phone company to report that he is receiving harassing phone calls from you. Everytime you pick up the phone to call him you are reinforcing your neediness and your obsession with this guy. No man is worth all that. Have a little pride and stop doing this. Let it go.
2006-08-11 16:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey i dont know how old are you but you have to learn that kind of behavior takes you to be alone...have you checked the film how to lose a guy in 10 days? well...you are just doing what you dont have...now you need to fix this and if you realy like him dont call him!
he´s already thinking you are a weird and obssessive person...
if you like him try to change that and make him believe you are not crazy and that you are a great girl to go out with...
no one is going to stand this behavior! so take it easy and just think something else or you are going to ruin every single relationship you could have and be alone for good..
guys hate those things!
2006-08-11 16:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to chill out. do something else to occupy urself. either take this two ways... seclude and reflect or go out and have fun with alot of others. get together with ur grls and go out. TALK TO OTHER GUYS!!! u could end up meeting ur new obsession or someone to make this guy look like a loser. if u take road number one do something that removes alot of others voices. it will make u listen to ur own and revolve around you. take a peaceful swim or go for a run with head phones. activivty helps and of course music. just think hes just a guy... i know u care about him but at the end of the day he is still just another guy. ull learn to deal hun. stay strong and DO NOT CALL HIM AGAIN!!
peacee
2006-08-11 15:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by hiimehasmile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋