My best friend is younger than me,(12 and her bf is 13) but her and her bf have already held hands,kissed, french kissed, and he spent the night at her house!!!!!!!She has been goin' out with him for only three days longer then i have been goin' out with my boyfriend.She's only twelve!! and she keeps gasping and looking at me when she asked me if i have kissed/madeout with my boyfriend and i tell her no. I am afraid she is goin to get in trouble in highschool if her relationships keep movin' this fast. She kissed her bf after only a week after he ''asked her out''. I am 13.......................does anyone else agree with me that their relationship is goin too fast......or is mine goin' too slow? i doubt it but what do you think?
2006-08-11 15:30:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I doubt my relationship is goin too slow
2006-08-11 15:32:32 · update #1
I believe that a kiss is ok, along with holding hands, but makin' out, spendin' the night?
2006-08-11 15:36:41 · update #2
Flachic, i just wanted some advice, wasnt lookin at anything else, just wanted to help my friend.
2006-08-11 15:57:43 · update #3
her hormones are taking over, jsut be there for her and support her when it all falls to pieces.
2006-08-11 15:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! She is not old enough to handle this stuff right. How old are your boyfriends? I don't know of any 12 or 13 year old boys that would be putting this kind of pressure on girls. ANd what is wrong with her parents that a boy would be allowed to spend the night? If you are not comfortable with that kind of peer pressure from your friend, then maybe you need to rethink your friendship. And don't think it won't be until high school that your friend might ruin her life. You can get pregnant after the first time you have a period. Give yourselves a chance to discover who you are before you start defining yourselves by whether or not you have a boyfriend. You have the rest of your life to have boyfriends, but only a short time to be kids and discover yourselves and the world around you.
2006-08-11 15:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do agree that she is going way too fast. Since she is only 12, she really needs to slow it way down. Little kisses here and there and holding hands is ok, but french kissing and spending the night with her boyfriend already is just too much too soon. Do her parents know about all of this? Do his parents know about all of this? If they do and they don't seem to care then you need to do something fast. It sounds like you are really concerned about your friend, and that is a very good thing. If the adults won't do anything, as they should, you should intervene. Sit her down and talk to her, tell her that if she doesn't slow it down then she could end up in a lot worse trouble when she hits high school. Tell her that if she doesn't see the error in her ways and she doesn't want to listen to you then there isn't anything else you can do for her and unfortunately you can no longer be her friend. Tell her you love her too much as a friend to watch her ruin her life. If she still doesn't come around, then you need to cut your ties with her and find a new best friend, one who treasures who she is, one who feels she doesn't need to get a relationship moving so fast just because.Your best friend sounds too promiscuous to me. You are very smart for seeing the error in her ways, she needs to learn to love herself more than to become the town "tramp" (sorry, don't want to hurt your feelings, but if she keeps going like she is she will be called that and even worse). Good luck and I hope I helped.
2006-08-11 15:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by skeeter28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to you how fast you want your relationship to go. Just because she's doing it, doens't mean you have to. This is your life. She may be your best friend, but she will not ALWAYS be there.
And don't worry about her, let her do what she wants. You have the right as a friend to tell her how you feel, and after that you have done all you can do. Let her find out for herself.
You have a long life ahead of you, get through school first, it's most important. If you have sex, make him use protection.
2006-08-11 15:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by jugglaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I know is that Flachic constantly reports people and her answers are extremely insulting. You actually saw the better side of her, because she has said a lot worse things to people, including me. She called me an immature spoiled little brat when I asked a perfectly valid question. I usually give her answers a "thumbs down" and report her for insulting other participants. Sorry I didn't answer your question, but I'm basically on a mission to alert people of this user.
2006-08-11 17:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by kid_at_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your relationship is going at the right pace. hers is going too fast. when she hits high school she will be known as the school hoe. your friend may think everything is a game know but she will be very upset when her rep goes down the tube. don't change anything about your relationship. you are on the right track. so many of these girls are having sex too young. they end up getting pregnant or having some sexually transmitted disease. so stay on the right track sweetheart.
2006-08-11 15:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend might want to slow down. I would say that she has a good dose of puppy love. If i were you i wouldn't worry about whether your relationship is going to slow or what your friend thinks of your relationship. Go at your own pace you're only 13!....And if your friend is bugging you about how slow you are moving tell her that you would rather be slow than slutty, infested with STD's and pregnant!
2006-08-11 15:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right..your relationship is not going too slow. Your young and you should take your time. You don't want to rush..much as your friend is. Your friend could get herself into to trouble that she wont' be able to get out of if she's not careful. You just keep at what your doin and everything will be alright.
ps. Don't let your friend convience you that your relationship is wrong. :)
2006-08-11 15:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the pace she willbe having sex within the next few months. Tell her to slow it down although her boyfriend is only 13 he may oonly get what he wants from her and then 'dump'' her. Explain to her that she doesnt need to rush and to enjoy the boyfriend girlfriend relationship.
2006-08-11 15:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, She has some really stupid parents for one thing!!! Letting him spend the night, is just wrong. Don't you feel left out because you haven't done what she has. You are doing things the right way, even though in my honest opinion 13 is to young to be so involved with boys.
2006-08-11 15:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, it's her. No offence, but I think your friend's a s l u t. I bet by the time she's a... softmore in High school, she'll be a teenage mother. Don't worry about her life, I think you're moving at the right pace. Just make sure to keep it there.
2006-08-11 15:41:17 · answer #11 · answered by Read the nametag, Duh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋