he understands, but he still want us to do things that are sexy but don't have to do with sex. can't we just have a relationship where we don't have to touch and do things that are almost close to having sex
2006-08-11 15:12:55 · 25 answers · asked by sweetdreams 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes and that's what you should be telling him!!! He seems like an understanding guy!!!
2006-08-11 15:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun if he understood that you arent ready for sex then maybe you should explain to him that anything of a sexual nature is not what you are wanting at this point in your life but you need to understand that to be in a relationship there is always going to be something that is sexual whether it be kissing or just touching. I hope he can respect you for haveing understood that your mind and body are not ready for sex or things of a sexual nature but honestly how do you expect him to feel your love if you dont want any touching I understand sexually but to feel love sometimes physical touches are need to reassure the heart felt feelings just tell him exactly what you dont mind and what you do mind if he truely loves you he will except your decition and if he doesnt then you may want to concider going on your way...Good Luck and I hope everything turns out well for you
2006-08-11 15:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by shell b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations for being a woman who knows what she wants and that she is not ready. All men are physically driven, not meaning that they have to have sex, but to feel closer to you and show love a lot of them have to do something physical. It makes them feel as though they are showing you love and that they are loved in return. Maybe you should try to figure out another way to show eachother that that you both understand is something just between the 2 of you.
2006-08-11 15:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very wise and your decision is great.
however your boyfriend seems a little immature cuz he doesn't respect your decision.
i'm not sure if he is really the right guy for you.
communication is the key in this case.
just keep talking with him about this issue till he will fully understands you.
do NOT ever do that you don't feel comfortable or you are not ready for.
good luck!
2006-08-11 15:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ caramel_bonbon ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. He is hoping that once he persuades you to loosen up a little bit he'll be able to push it just a little further and further until you relent. He should respect your decision and not try to make moves on you when you've expressly stated your desire to wait. If he keeps pressuring you, then he never really did understand that you wanted to wait. If that is the case, you are better off finding someone who respects you.
2006-08-11 15:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is right. Do not let the man talk you into anything. If he can not take NO for a answer the you do not need him. The one you need will show up later if it is not him. Good luck and stick by what you believe.
2006-08-11 15:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by liza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, good for you for standing up for what you believe in. Second, of course you can, but it sounds like you may not be able to with him. He'll just use these "sexy acts" to try to convince you to give in.
2006-08-11 15:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make the rules clear as a bell. He needs to know everything that is a nono untill the wedding night or it will keep getting worse untill you do the things you do not want to do
2006-08-11 15:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a lot of guys, touching is a kind of nonverbal "I love you." It doesn't mean they want to have sex with you, he's just telling you that your desirable to him and he loves you. If you really want it to stop, remind him when he starts getting too sexual (he WILL, occasionally forget), and substitute it with a lot of cuddling.
2006-08-11 15:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to, If that's not what he is looking for at this time, then maybe your not right for eachother. He should respect what you want and not push you to be ready before you are.
2006-08-11 15:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by KO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋