I know that the horny guys are going to answer with a Yes, but I am looking for an honest answer from you men. If you like a girl that you don't know that well, is the first thing you think about is sex? Having that person as a sexual parter? Do you think like us women that the first thing we seek in a relationship is being loved, hugged, cuddled, etc?
Do all men live day by day with that mentality even the ones who look the most innocent?
Do all of you see everything through "Sex-O-Vision"?
2006-08-11 15:07:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE are you being serious? Don't you think of recieving love as important also?
2006-08-11 15:11:45 · update #1
No, I think of a little of everything. Being loved, touched, listened to, etc. and physical attraction are all things that come to mind when I am looking for a relationship. While sex is not everything, the fact that physical attraction counts for something is a detail of human courtship that too many people try to vilify. When I meet a woman, the first thing I think of is usually her body. But that is not because I am seeking sex from her. (In fact, I plan to wait until I get married to lose my virginity; I am 21 years old now.) When I check her out, I am trying to see if she has what I consider to be an appealing appearance. (However, there are certain physical characteristics that I find too unattractive to overlook. Obesity is one of those. I refuse to believe that my preference is shallow, no matter what anyone says.) When I meet a woman for the first time, that is the first thing that comes to mind because I do not know anything else about her. But there may very well be men who think of nothing but sex. Please don't make the mistake of thinking the majority of us are that way. Have a good night!
2006-08-11 15:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a great motivator, and yes, if I go into a bar, and I'm trying to pick up a girl, chances are it's with some expectation of sex, but that;s not the only motivation. Let me give you a scenario.
Say I'm at work, and a new girl starts, and I think she's good looking, but don't really think anything of it, because she's a co-worker. Now, I've been working with her for a couple of weeks, and she's nice, interesting and I find her extremely easy to talk to and get along with. If I ask her out, I'm not looking for sex, I am indeed looking for a relationship, such as an intelligent two way relationship, not a "must have sex every day or I'm leaving kind".
So no, that's not always the first thing we think about, but I guess it depends on the guy, just like everything.
2006-08-11 22:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Alberta Sunrise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me honestly I don't, I mean I love girls, but well I first try to get a girl to be with me. And well start things slow. Talking and getting to know each other, a movie from time to time, maybe dinner. Easing into a more physical relationship with me kissing her and cuddling with her, holding her. etc... and well sex really doesn't cross my mind until alot later when I feel that this girl should be my first.(I'm still a virgin, so you can tell how well that worked out). But well I really like knowing that I haven't given up my virginity yet. So well no for me sex is the last thing, it's an emotional thing that changes everything and very scary for the fact that you can end up being a parent within the course of one sexual contact experience. So well I'm more into enjoying moments, and taking it slow. And making damn sure that I really want to be with this girl forever and ever before I consider a sexual intimate relationship.
2006-08-11 22:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by darkgothicshadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really starts as a physical attraction, so in a way yes it is sexual but I think it moves to someone to have fun with and share experiences with. Making a connection makes the physical side much more satisfying for me. Remember we do have testosterone in our blood. I remember reading an article where a woman needed some treatment that included testosterone hormone therapy and she could not believe how her sex drive went wild.
2006-08-11 22:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by gpwjeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the jokers that say sex is the first and only thing a guy looks for. If that is the first thing any guy looks for in a relationship, obviously he is not looking for a relationship at all. There is so much misinformation out there, and some of it even coming from fairly respectable folks like Dr. Phil..sorry...Dr. Pheeeyyyl, but contrary to the popular belief, not all guys are looking for a hole to stick their dink, some are actually looking for a relationship and my advice is to keep searching for that guy, they're not as rare as you think
2006-08-11 22:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by gimli_1977 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look no sex ant aways the first thing on are minds but ever 5 or 10 seconds a guy think about it.See we think about it alot if were not getting laid none but see we work and try to keep relationship together.
2006-08-11 22:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by rfrandy2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not I. I look for personality first sex is fun but with age fades personality is there forever
2006-08-11 22:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by lopezjl137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be frank, men love women with an intention for sex by hugging, cuddling and everything .that's all.
2006-08-11 22:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i look for at least a few simular intrests, and an outgoing non shy personality. dont get me wrong, thaughts of sex are there, just not on the top of the list.
2006-08-12 02:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by K E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how lonely the guy is. I know there's been times when the need for companionship was my prime motivator.
2006-08-11 22:16:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋