I met this guy a year ago and been hanging out eversince. We were practically friends but sometimes I got mixed signals that he likes me. I fell for him since the 1st time I met him, so 2 months ago I said to him how I feel, and he said he still hasn't get over his ex and now he wants to just concentrate with his business and grad school. He said he prefers just to be friend with me and I said ok, but now suddenly he disappeared. I've been trying to forget him but I am already falling for him. How to get over him and get rid of him outta my mind???
2006-08-11 15:06:26 · 24 answers · asked by flowergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, only thing that gets rid of feelings is time. I know that is used alot, but it really is the truth. You were hoping for something he can't give you.....it is best for you if you can concentrate on things in your life that are important to you other than him. You really are only hurting yourself at this point in time with wishful thinking and if you think about it...does that make alot of sense? It is true....if you fall for him you are able to fall for someone else. Don't ya just hate hearing that? But so true!
2006-08-11 15:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only answer is time. I know this wasn't really about dating advise but food for thought.
I recommend a book called "He just not that into you" -our something close- so next time you don't waste the time an energy (and heartache) on someone/something that wasn't going anywhere. Remember men are notorious for sending mixed messages. Sometimes because they are selfish manipulative pigs and sometimes because they don't know them selfish well enough to really know what they want. When I first started dating my current husband (married now since 1998) he was incredibly wishy washy. That is until I started dated other people and found out I was "in demand" (which is also a really great song by a British band called Texas) Then he feel in line. And one of the other guys I was dating (who was on a TV show at the time and hasn't worked since ha ha) was really sending mixed messages until he found out my husband asked me to marry him and then he became very attentive. I have to say the best man won. Lastly I don't recommend being sexually active if you do decide to date around wait until someone is completely committed to you. And then if you are both over 18 have him get and aids test and have fun! Just remember time does heal all wounds.
2006-08-11 22:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let your heart heal. Start going out on little dates with other guys for coffee, and do things for other people (like a homeless shelter, someone in real need). By helping other people you are not focusing on your own pain, and you are helping someone else (it was how I was able to get over my divorce...I was married for almost 17 years). When you open up your heart to other people, well there are side benefits, you are also meeting other people who are willing to contribute something to the community...oh yeah...potentially you could meet a really nice guy along the way.
2006-08-11 22:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right decision to forget him since he seems not in love with you.
It is not as easy to forget someone we love especially he is our first and true love as you think but you can make him as you past that wil not bother your future. Just to be open and honest to your self to achieve that he is not the one for you. Give your self chance to have someone new and do not think that he is "the only one man" since there are many men better and the best for you..the only problem is just the time to find one of them.
Good Luck
2006-08-11 22:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forget someone once you cared for them, but you can respect the man's honesty most men would use a rebound relationship to get over their ex. Just be happy he gave you honesty, and who's to say he disappeared just give him space and time he may reappear
2006-08-11 22:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He suddenly disappeared? Sounds like he's gone, and you need to get over it.
Just keep waking up every morning, as the days go by he will seem less, and less important.
2006-08-11 22:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't do that to you. Hang out with friends, especially other guys and play around with them in a more than friends way. You'll forget about him in a few weeks after he hurts you enough.
2006-08-11 22:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Erin the ROCKSTAR! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to realize that the guy is not into you. If he was he would not use such excuses. It is hard to let guy trust me I've been there. Just keep yourself busy and also meet other guys. It takes time there is no remedie that can get you over him over night. Just except his choice and talk to other guys.
2006-08-11 22:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by biochick11220 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that much into him, you won't be able to forget him, but you need to keep yourself busy with other activities and hang out with your friends. Good Luck.
2006-08-11 22:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boia, that soinds so hard. that happened to me at a skool called FLA (Forest Lake Acdemy) we were on a music trip, and on a day we had a brake from singing and playing instruments, we went to this lake thing, and i really hawt guy came up to us and stated talking to us. he invited me to go diving in underwater caves with him, and it was so much fun. my hair was all wet and everything. but when we left, and i was all dry, he walked right past me, and never loooked twice. iit hurt so boia badly. o well, that is the past, screw him, lol
2006-08-11 22:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋