2006-08-11 15:06:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Speak when spoken to, don't give information voluntarily, and if you don't have to be around them don't.
2006-08-11 15:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by charleedude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your spouses sake you really should just try and grin and bare it. Try not to make any derogatory remarks to your spouse about them, after all they are his/her parents. Be polite as you can and if they are the type to make the snide little comments at your expense, don't let them get away with it but calmly tell them that you didn't appreciate what was just said. Try and express you displeasure every time a negative comment is said about you, especially if it is said in front of others, this way it will make them look bad and if they see that you will stand your ground and not take it, they will more than likely stop doing it. Of course, I'm not even sure if yours are even doing that to you, I'm just speaking from experience. But in general you married this person so therefore you are stuck with their parents so make the best of it and try to make your holiday plans with your family as often as possible!
2006-08-11 22:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them, and just make sure you don't do anything to make yourself look bad. My mother in law constantly complains about my husband marrying me and how it's my fault he joined the military and so on and so forth. I just ignore her and I am as nice to her as I can be. That way when my kids get old enough, they'll know that I contucted myself in a way that I could be proud of instead of acting like a hurt child.
2006-08-11 22:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by happymommy24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see right through them.dont let them hurt u.tolerate them as long as u have a supportive partner.if u r staying 2gether suggest to ur partner that things would be better if u set up a seperate home.explain to him/her that bitterness wont take u anywhere.if they r just over for vacation or something bear them with a smile.it will save everyone lot of unpleasantness.
2006-08-12 03:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find something you love about your spouse in them, and remember that you married your spouse and that includes people you may not get on with.
Try to find some common ground and realize getting along with them is part of your commitment to your spouse.
Or move.
2006-08-11 22:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i call it the "eddie haskel" personality. When they are around you are on your best behavior. When they aren't do your thing. I have been married 10 yrs and i have had issues with my inlaws from day one. you have to be nice for your spouse. don't get me wrong you don't have to take any crap, but you have to make an effort for the sake of the family. i have to change my way of thinking, talking, you name it they don't care for it. but just remember, if your spouse knows you don't care for them and you make an effort to get along when they are around it looks better on you. I know it's hard to get along with people that just don't want to get along with you, or people that rub you the wrong way
2006-08-11 22:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by turdle007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to them...that's what I do. Until my in laws decide to show me some respect I refuse to speak to them. So far it is working, they have taken the first step to reconcile the situation with me.
2006-08-11 22:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by stall_out 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be decent and courteous as you would to anyone. You don't have to be a friend with someone you don't like. Keep a distance when possible.
2006-08-11 22:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by grandmacat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be so nice to them that they wonder what theyve done wrong-you arent upset or in a huff you see
2006-08-12 03:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I zone mine out they are awful but to make my hubby happy I always try to make nice.
2006-08-11 22:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by cc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋