My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and we live together. In the beginning i wore the pants and was the dominate one and he, pretty much just did everything I said. Then slowly he started changing, which is expected. He moved in with me about 5 months ago. We've had a really hard time adjusting. We constantly fight. Like for instance the last dumb fight we had was -we were snuggling and he pulled down my pants slightly while he was tickling my back, well i said "Don't look at my butt THAT close" I wasn't being mean and so i turned in the other directions. He just got up and left. Then yelled at me b/c i got upset about it. I didn't really get upset until he started yelling "****" and after all our stuff anything like that just really gets to me. Plus he doesnt trust me AT ALL. He went out to lunch the other day w/ two girls, didnt tell me, then when i found out was just like "oh its fine". It doesnt upset me cause i trust him but i know he doesnt trust me the same.
2006-08-11 14:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by MeghanGene 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not MAD at him because he looked at my ***, but why would someone feel the need to have their eyes like a cm from your ***?!? Hello ?? Im not insecure about it, in fact its a physical attribute i like, and when i said it i wasnt being mean i was just being sarcastic. But just leaving me there, not saying where he was going, and then going into the guest bedroom - laying down- and im assuming trying to go to bed (bc he's still up there) isn't nice. Especially after we almost broke up LAST night and we're suppose to be "working" on things
2006-08-11 15:03:41 · update #1
wtf?!? because he looked at your ***? yr suppose to be turned on by that!! my god and yes. Your over reacting.
2006-08-11 14:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-12 04:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should not be based on who where's the pants in the relationship. I'm sure you know that. You are not over reacting, in my opinion. You are a female, we all get moody sometimes. Things will annoy you now that you live together, just like things will annoy him. Think really hard about this. Maybe not much as changed, what has changed, is now when you fight you can't really get away every time. It is a lot to take in when living together. Also it could be you. Maybe you are angry at the fact the you don't where the pants anymore in the relationship. It is normal to feel that way, but you also have to understand it is not fair for one to be controlling. Talk to him and try to work out your problems. If you both want to stay together you will find away for that.
2006-08-11 21:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u two just arent compatible under the same roof... u have to pick ur fights some are worth and some arent... if u dont feel completley comfortable in front of him in every aspect u may want to re-evaluate ur realtionship.. u been togather for 2 yrs.. thats along time u should be at ease in any situation at anytime...and honestly if there isnt trust in the relationship then u have nothing .. i think u two need to have a long talk and do alittle soul searchin make sure this is what u really want...
2006-08-11 21:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not over-reacting at all. i have the same stupid arguements with my b/f of 3 yrs. he will say "calm down, just chill out, stop yelling" when i'm not mad, not yelling, and completely content and trying to calmly talk to him. i ignore him. he stops after a while. but sometimes he'll bring up the "huge arguement we had the other day" and how i "yelled and called him bad names". really i don't honestly, i wish i could call him an *** sometimes but i don't. i ignore him, and he'll call me a ***** for it. but i see no other way to deal with it. i have defended myself, and it just leads to a bigger arguement.
and he's going out with girls and not telling you about it? sounds suspicious, if it was innocent, why didn't he tell you about it?
gosh, sounds just like me. he doesn't trust me at all either. the only way for me to ensure his trust is to stay inside the house at all times and if i go anywhere to let him know what i'm doing. i have no friends because of this. i shouldn't have caved in for him, i know.
really i don't know how you can win his trust, i wish i knew that one. i have tried everything.
best wishes.
2006-08-11 21:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never stop your man from looking at you or touching you some place because you are insecure about it. You can stop him if you simply don't like it but not because you are insecure. Your man lives with you and he loves you. Open up to him, completely. As far as him not trusting you he needs to get over that stuff. It is pointless. If a girl is going to cheat she is going to cheat.
2006-08-11 21:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
living together is a real test of compatability, sounds like there are some rough patches that need to be worked on between you two if you want to carry on with him.
Sit him down and tell him how you feel about your lives together, and your lives apart. Then listen to what he has to say, if he doesn't want to talk then thats usually a good indication that he has a huge communication problem or hes not interested in what you have to say.
Best of luck.
2006-08-11 21:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Playing House is never a good idea.
I know all women think "Oh, its the 21st century--women's lib--blah, blah, blah"..But the nature of human beings doesnt change--its just a matter of time before he gets tired of you--or you of him.
Peace.
2006-08-11 22:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u pretty much over reacting, but he also gotta learn 2 trust u
2006-08-11 21:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by LilAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋