We hardly have known each other for a long time..........so it freaks me out...I mean she's a nice person, but I think she could be rushing things....
2006-08-11 14:42:00 · 21 answers · asked by Lambada 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you haven't think about marriage yet, but could you picture being married with her? Do you love her enough to marry her? she could be rushing things, but some people only need a year or less to know. If you're not ready, tell her that. Don't keep her waiting forever for you to get ready. Be honest with yourself, will it takes another 5-10 years for you to be ready?If your plans don't match, it's better to put things straight now to spare you both from heartache & headache.
2006-08-11 14:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't ready for marriage yet, or you wouldn't be asking this question..
Ask yourself this - do you still see yourself with her in another year's time? if yes, how about 10 years? Could you see yourself with anyone else? If you want the relationship to continue, with a view to being together permanently, then tell her that, just that you're not ready for that step yet.
If you don't see it ever reaching that stage, then it's probably best to leave sooner than later. I'ts not fair to put either of you in the situation where you both expect different things from each other. If she truly loves you and is that comitted to you, then she'll understand and wait.
If all she's focusing on is the wedding and family, let her go and find someone else that will give her that, and look elsewhere yourself..
2006-08-11 15:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being unfamiliar with the details, it is hard to answer. In general, you should be freaked out. Strangers do not normally do this. However, if she is only academically discussing the topic, then you are safe discussing it. On the other hand, I know of a few times when a man or a woman asked the other to marry after only fifteen minutes. In one case, they married a year later and have enjoyed over 50 years together. In another they married a few weeks later and are enjoying 18 years together. I wouldn't count on that one though it is not impossible.
Use your own judgment. You know more than we do about what is going on. Also, don't be afraid to ask her about her intentions. How physical have you been together? Have you led her on? Ask yourself questions.
Good luck.
2006-08-11 15:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEE YOU next 3 hundred and sixty 5 days! xo EDIT: Oh, wait, I study the question. i think of mentioned "lady" must be allowed to date somewhat until eventually now an arranged marriage like this. some thing isn't real right here. grow to be the mum paid off? Does the lady have "matters" and that's the superb her mom feels she gets? This only seems unsavory. however, one hundred years in the past, such preparations have been consumer-friendly interior the U. S.. now and lower back the boys have been plenty older.
2016-12-11 07:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprising it took that long ! A year you say ? She isn't rushing you, but it sounds like she's establishing the ground rules. Pretty normal, and you should be honest with yourself, do you want a long term relationship with her ? If the answer is no, then move on.
Men spend time with women, but women invest it.
2006-08-11 16:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS A COOKIE CUTTER LIFE PLANNED OUT AND LOOKING FOR SOMEONE SHE CAN MOLD, AND FIT INTO HER PLAN.
Unless you want to be "changed" into her ideal, then move on. You want to be ok the way you are, right? It's nice of her to share her thoughts and goals with you, but if you're not ready to think like that, then maybe you need to tell her to look elsewhere.
2006-08-11 14:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont freak out, its normal. you're a guy, i'm sure she just want to hear some answers from her friends and that includes you. in a serious relationship? you're answers will reflect on how you plan the future even tho you're not rushing things up.
2006-08-11 14:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by hankee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say shes a "nice" person, that says it all. You say nothing of love and if i was you if talking to her and telling her that you are soooooo not ready for all those things yet doesn't work, then id run a mile!!
2006-08-11 18:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run and don't look back! If you are this far off each other's script, it's not going to work.
"Ever seen a blind man cross the road, trying to make the other side?
Ever seen a young girl growing old, trying to make herself a bride?"
2006-08-11 14:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not see her every time she wants to and let her know you have your own life and you keep something to yourself. Do not see her family. Keep distance. She'll get the message and either go away or adjust her attitude. If she doesn't, you should leave.
2006-08-11 14:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by spot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋