a few years ago i went to prision for killing the man who raped my 12 year old daughter. my question is will god punnish me as i am not sorry? if i could go back and do it all over i wouldn't change anything. i admitted what i did and paid mans price. will i have to pay again? also i have asked god to help me change the way i feel but as of yet nothing has changed.
2006-08-11 14:33:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thank you for some very thoughtful answers
2006-08-11 14:42:13 · update #1
thank you all for your thoughtful answers and prayers. i wish i could choose all of your answers as best as there are so many great ones. i don't think it fair of me to choose just one so i will put it to a vote.
thank you all and god bless you.
2006-08-12 07:10:45 · update #2
God will only forgive a repentent heart. I know where you are coming from, though. It's hard to let anger and feelings like it go. I will be sure to join you in prayer, and hope that you might find even a lttle remorse to base your repentance on. You paid the penalty of man, yes, but God's judgement is a lot different.
Praying for you, and God bless.
2006-08-11 14:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Your hero until you meet Jesus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very evident from your own statement, that you have never truly forgiven the man who done the evil to your daughter. I cannot say that I would not feel the same, if it had of happened to me; for I have 2 lovely daughters also. But we cannot repay evil for evil; regardless of what wrong we have suffered. I believe that the only way that you will ever overcome this problem, is to realize that no matter how wrong it was (the case with your girl) that you must forgive him in your heart, and also ask forgiveness from anyone in the family of the one you murdered. For even though they may of had nothing to do with the rape, I'm certain that you hurt family members very much; just like the man involved with your daughter, hurt you very much. I do not believe that God can help you at all, until you decide in your heart, that you are no longer going to hold the grudge against the other man. Even though he may be dead now, you are still wrong by holding a grudge against him. God's Word tells us that if we refuse to forgive others, neither will He forgive us. I pray that you will do what is expected of you by God; then you can expect to receive his forgiveness, and begin to live a life that is different; having the peace that only God can give.
2006-08-11 22:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Calvin S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your place, I might have done the very same thing. And within the letter of the Law of Moses, you were within your rights.
However, Jesus came to show us the correct way, the more excellent way. Maybe you are unable to repent of taking this man's life, but that is done. What is undone is releasing his eternal judgment into God's hands. As long as you harbor malice, bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness in your heart, there is no room for God to give you His saving grace.
Forgiveness for a crime does not mean that the crime goes unpunished, it means that the required penalty has been paid. Jesus died for ALL sin, and unless you release the final judgment of this man into Jesus' hand, you are placing yourself above Him and refusing His forgiveness for yourself.
Once you have forgiven him, God will sweep the bitterness, etc. out of your heart, and there will be room for you to invite Jesus in. Once He's in, He'll do the rest.
Think about it.
2006-08-11 22:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by claypigeon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand - if someone did that to my daughter - I would be in the same boat as you.
But - It clearly states you have to ask forgiveness and you have to forgive those that sin against you. You really need to do some soul searching and figure a way to forgive that horrible man for what he did. He is getting a whole lot more now and going through a lot more punishment for what he did right now then you ever gave him by killing him.
You have to let go and move on - think of your daughter - I am sure she is struggling too - you need to do this together and somehow find it in your heart to do the right thing.
I wish you all the luck and hope you can do what you need to do.
2006-08-11 21:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have not seen a question that is on a line as this one.
You have and you have not broken the commandments. In your soul you have broken the law, and you know it.
You have taken life in anger, and laid in wait to take life.
And you know what you must do.
Go someplace where you are alone, for a day or a night, and in prayer relive everything, open your soul to him and in the name of Christ remove it from you. I do hope you can.
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Now for me:
Yeah way to go. You deserve a metal at least 1.
May God hold the heart of your prosecutor in his hand and squeeze. May your jailer never have a day of rest. May the gov. of your state be found corrupt and die in prison.
2006-08-11 22:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Grandreal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hardcore
Only God can help you
I know exactly how you feel
and I cannot say anything to you
It has to come from within yourself
And it is something you will have to work out between you
and God.
You being out of prison is a new life
and I admire you for the love of your family
That man who did all that was sick in soul and blinded
by satan.
No man can judge you, only God.
take care and may God bless you
2006-08-11 21:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Queen A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, that must have been awful for you and your daughter. I don't know what I would have done, as no one can unless it happens to them. All I can say is, God knows your heart, and that you did what you did out of love for your daughter. I don't claim to know the mind of God, or how (or whether) He chooses to punish someone such as you. Just keep praying, and I will pray for you and your daughter. May God bless you.
2006-08-11 21:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by cj_justme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God sees your heart. You can trust that He knows what you're feeling as a father, and that you want to please Him as your Father. He will help you move past this if you have asked Him to. Just stay open to Him and listen. Jesus took the judgment for all sin, and if you have accepted the Gift of pardon that God offers, then you need not be concerned about paying again. Accept His forgiveness for all that happened, and receive the peace that Christ offers. Welcome Him into your life and heart and trust that He will lead you past this, on into the rest of your life.
2006-08-11 22:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by novalee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Ihave asked god to help me change the way i feel but as of yet nothing has changed."
This could take a while.
Seriously. God's time frame is not our time frame. In order to inherit eternal life you will need to forgive him. But you will not burn hell forever like many churchs teach. You can email me if you want.
2006-08-11 21:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by SEOplanNOW.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only God can answer your question on this matter but my guess is that you will not be punished further. I think it is wonderful that you are asking God to help you get over your anger. I am certain that he will answer your prayer.
2006-08-11 21:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋