Why don't parents make their children behave?

Question

Kids these days are horrible! People don't make them do chores, respect their elders, or any of that stuff. They let their kids sit around, watch TV, eat in the living room, make messes, back talk, whine, slam doors, jump on the furniture, run in the house, say bad words, write on the walls, and eventually fight, drink, smoke, do drugs, have sex... I mean what the heck is going on!?! My folks used switches, belts, wooden spoons, fly swats, whatever it took to get their message across (I'm a better person today because of it-I'm thankful). People today are lazy. It's easier for them to go with the flow than to take a stand. Well, this is why our girls are getting knocked up and our boys are ending up in jail. Stop the madness and start early. Make your children mind. Smack them when they sass you. Whoop their tails when you tell them to do something and they say "no" and do it anyway. People do not like your kids because you let them do as they please. Love 'm, make 'm mind.

I have children.

Answer 1

I have children of my own. I also have worked for a daycare and have relatives who have children. I can tell you that some of the worst behaved kids have the most unreasonable parents. Try to tell a parent that their child is a challenge and immediately they defend the kid. Some parents act like their child can do no wrong. Children are supposed to have a healthy FEAR of authority, it's called RESPECT.
I get so frustrated when I am out somewhere where there is an unrully child and the child's mom (or dad) does this....."johnny stop. johnny quit. johnny don't do that. johnny, johnny, johnny, johnny, johnny,"...
I want to shout, "For goodness sake, tear his butt up!!! " It just does not make sense. Take the kid to the bathroom and TEACH him some respect! It is bad parenting not to. When you allow your children to be disruptive and do as they please, YOU ARE BEING A BAD PARENT.
Some of the greatest people that I have ever known were spanked as children for being stubborn and hard headed. You just ask the WISE older members of your community, they'll tell you. They got up at daylight and kept busy all day. If they smarted off at their parents, they wouldn't be able to sit down for a week. What kind of people are they today? They are respected, admirable, productive members of society. They are not mental cases who can't function properly.
I hate when people baby their kids! Everyday they are growning older and before you know it, they are going to be out in the real world. Do you think their boss is just going to call them down over and over to remind them of the rules? No. Do you think the cops are going to turn a blind eye when they refuse to obey the laws? No.
Our teachers don't get paid nearly enough these days to tend to these little monsters. I have always given permission to anyone seeing after my kids to do what they have to do to make them mind. I will not tolerate disrespect from children (mine or anyone else's) and you should not either. Who's in charge anyway?
I totally agree with Nunya.
People with really bad kids are bad parents (unless there's a medical reason) and kids need their butts "whooped" regularly until they "get the message".

Emma, it is good that you communicate with your son. I think most people really don't have much to say anymore about earrings and tattoos. Most realize that "pretty is as pretty does". As long as he's a good kid, then his appearence dosn't matter so much right now.

Answer 2

The problem is, nowadays, if you so much as smack your child, suddenly child services will be at your house, and before you know it, your kid is away at a foster home. At least that's the mentality some of them have.

Another problem is some parents just don't care, at least until little Johnny or Janie breaks the law or gets someone killed, which by then it'll be too late most of the time.

Or maybe they got beat as kids, and don't want to do the same to their kids, but by not disciplining the child, the kid starts to think that they can get whatever they want, whenever they want.

I don't want to say that popular culture is responsible though. While it might have some influence, this has been said of every generation pretty much since the dawn of time (right now it's mostly video games and hip-hop music, but a few years ago it was rock & roll, then it was tv, movies, etc. You get the idea). And the "positive" stuff usually sucks, so they don't want to watch it when stuff like the Osbornes or reality tv where people regularly argue and cuss is the "accepted" standard.

So what can be done? Well, I don't know to be honest. Although my mom disciplined me a little, I was never a "bad" kid anyway. I grew up on video games, and have turned out fine, despite what doomsayers speak of about Columbine (I think those two idiots had bigger problems, it's just that games are really easy to blame). And yes, I played Doom and other violent games, but I'm not more inclined to go and blow people's heads off. If anything, it's turning me against violence, cause the more I study war and violence, the more turned off I am against that stuff (I'm not a peace-nik by any means, but I'd like to find a peaceful solution to situations if possible).

Not sure what else to say, just wanted to make some comments of my own. If anything though, the parents need to start parenting more, or else their kids will do stupid stuff like drugs and get themselves killed or jailed.

Answer 3

I do fully agree. I have a friend that has 2 kids and when they come over they break anything they get their hands on and make a mess and it infuriates me. Their mother will just sit there and watch them do this to my house so now i don't invite her over anymore. There are a few reasons as to why parents have disobedient children.
a)they don't take the time to teach their children how to behave, even in public. Whether this is because it hasn't worked in the past and they get tired of trying, or can't be bothered i don't know.
b)they spoil their children to the extent that the child will not listen and gets evverything they want(push-over parent)
c)some parents don't want their children to go through wnat they went through in their childhood up-bringing.
What ever the circumstance, there is no need for children not to behave, it is a reflection on how the parent has brought the child up.
I have a son that knows right from wrong. If i tell him that what he is doing is wrong, he knows and you will not see him doing it again. He is great when we go out, he is a happy child that is polite and smiles and says hello to evveryone. All it takes is a little persistance and time.

Answer 4

You said it well. But I think the reason today is all of the whiners (and you will hear from them) that cry "abuse" when you spank a child. I can tell you right now, if I hadn't gotten spanked, I would be some drugged out mother of 20 hooking for my drug money. My parents loved me enough not to listen to the ones that would say "you shouldn't spank a child".

I will say that not every child needs to be spanked all the time. My sister and I are the examples of children being different. I needed a spanking at least once a day (if they didn't see why, I more than likely got away with something), and my sister was more of a good kid. She was more of the follower, so I caught hell, and she got yelled at, and that was enough to send her into fits. But we're both better adults for it. No criminal records here.

I have a daughter, and I see myself in her. You tell her no, she smiles at you, and then does it anyways. Independent little cuss. But she catches a spanking once in a while. I don't want her to grow up disrespecting myself or her father. And she won't, if we can help it.

Answer 5

That is the worst thing I've heard today yet. I would never ever slap my child, and I think anyone that would is going to get right back at them. My baby girl is the most beautiful and well-bahaved for her age. I know parents that hit their kids, and do you know what their kids do? They hit back. My daughter has never even tryed to hit or slap me. and I'm gonna say its because she doesn't even know it hurts to be hit. I don't think slapping a child is going to get your point across. Why HURT a child for coloring on the wall? You punnish them with a timeout. or better yet, watch your kids when they are walking around with crayons-Not to mention they do wash off anyways. Why would you SLAP your kid when he's yelling in the store? So he can yell louder? No I don't think hurting your kids is the answer. I think time outs, extra chores and raised and stern voices will work. If you have a really bad kid, you need to talk to someone to help with you more advice. To many kids are beaten, and when the slapping, and spanking doesn't work what will those parents go to next? Harder, and longer hurting? Great Idea! When a child goes to school for beating up a kid for calling them a name, what will the parents say? "I wonder where they learned that hitting is right?" I don't mean to be a know it all, but why would you have children, to hit them?

Answer 6

I have a 15 1/2 yr old you can borrow for a week if you think I'm not doing my job right. I was spanked when I deserved it as a child, and raised him clean his room and be respectful of others. and He IS. But he is also sporting a Tattoo, (and a pierced Ear) ... Both of which I'd told him he could get when he's 18, and ON HIS OWN. In Texas, A Parent can't GIVE permission for a minor to get a tattoo. It is illegal to put a tattoo ON a minor. But he got one from someone, and I can't even get it removed because it is "only" his initials, not obscene, or a "gang" mark. If he were a GIRL child, and got Pregnant, an abortion is possible, with out even a phone call to me afterward.

He's NOT a bad kid. He brushes his teeth, and says "Excuse Me" when he bumps into people. He'll mow the yard every day for a Week, If it grew that fast... but he won't wear pants that fit, or T-shirts with sleeves. He'll check the Oil in my car, and change the tire when it goes Flat. But He won't stay at home if I'm doing laundry! He taught himself to play Guitar this summer, and the ONLY thing he does on-line is play checkers (I have the report card thingy)... But He can't ride HIS bicycle anywhere, he always rides his Brothers, Even though His brother has threatened to arrange his anatomy in ways guaranteed to prevent his Rump End from being in a Down position until my grandchildren are old enough to read! He COULD be into drugs... but he's NOT (they test here when guys play school sports, which he does)... He Could be into Girls... Okay, he IS... But he's NOT "willing to be a dad just yet" [his words]... He could be in a Gang... our town has them... But he's NOT... because "they'd probrably be bossier than {HIS MOM IS}... again, His words.... do I even TRY to spank him? are You MENTAL!... I am 5'6" and in good shape, I can even RUN AS FAST AS HE DOES, I' m 37... He's 15, 6' 3", In GREATshape, and intellegent to boot... he may be YOUNG enough to spank...But I'm not strong enough to hold him down... and If he won't hold still, I can't make him. So I find other ways to handle him now. And, Yeah, he finally got the tattoo he wanted so bad. I hauled his butt to the tattoo parlor, (I called in advance and spoke to the owner), and He was GREEN by the time they finished telling him what kind of risk he'd put himself into, and how long he'd have to be watching for them!... He's letting the earring hole grow over, because the Nice lady at the Piercing Shoppe explained WHY his "hoop" was bothering him, and why his ear was swollen... I don't spank him. I help him learn the lessons he's trying to learn. And he still mows the yard. and he still will not change out of those baggy jeans... of course, he only has ONE pair left... and If he does take them off, they go bye-bye... so he Does his OWN LAUNDRY! yeah, call me one of the "permissive parents" if you like... He still plans to go to College. Howard Payne to be exact. Industrial Engineering. And He decided THAT at 14! He's a wild one with a plan!.... Just be glad he's not dating your Daughter!!!

Answer 7

It's not cos they don't smack them, that is abuse anyway. It's cos they are too lazy to spend time with their children, they just plonk them in front of the telly or computer. They get mixed up in those things when they are older cos they are seeking the attention and comfort they never got from their parents. Even on the bus they ignore their kids, they are usually texting someone, or chatting on their phones, they just moan at the kids if they don't sit down properly or try to talk to their parent, they tell them they are rude! Kids play up cos it gets them attention from their parents, any attention is better than none. Parents also swear at their kids too, so they just copy their language. The parents are also slobs and sit eating their meals in front of the t.v. so the kids do the same. It's more attention and love kids need, not physical violence.

Answer 8

ok at the very end it says please do not like your kids? im sorry but what? I love my daughter but im not going to beat her for writeing on the walls. she is 3 and i want her to be a kid while she is a kid. yeah they need responsibility but why take all the fun out of being a kid yeah cleaning thier rooms and picking up after them selfs sure. but im not going to sit here and beat my kid if she is fussy cuz as far as i know she might not feel good, so if i punished her for not feeling good then in the future if something is ever wrong and she doesnt tell me because she is afraid of getting in trouble and then she ends up in the hospital you know how bad i would feel. plus some people when they grew up had parents that abused them and thats why they never hit thier kids because they know how it feels. I choose to not hit my kid. and i am proud of saying it. i do other punishments like nose on the wall or time out. I'm sorry but parents should not hit there kids EVER. Let me smack you when you make a mistake lets see how you like it. and as far as what they do when they get older well my kids know right from wrong.

Answer 9

Welcome to TODAY! The things your parents use to do like hitting you with things are now against the law and considered child abuse. You do something like that to your kid today kiss then goobye because DCF is taking them.

The only thing I do with my son is ground him because I find putting your hands on a child no matter how soft you hit them is abuse and makes you a low down coward because here your patehtic self is hitting a child who is way smaller then you and defencless.

Kids turn our bad because parents do not give a damn. My two cousins who are 24 and 17 grew up pretty much with no parents. They both had the same mom but diffrent dads and the oldest ones dad died by the time he was five because he was an alcholic and druggie and he ended up dying on the streets and then his younger brothers father would abuse him and let his wife abuse him so he would always have an attitude and he would be so hateful towards people but after my aunt found out what was going on she took him to court and they decided that he could not see my younger cousin again so my aunt put him in counseling and now he is totally fine but as for the oldest one UGGH where to start with him.

He constantly got itno fights, stole tags off peoples cars, broke into peoples houses, stole cars , sold drugs and so much more but now at age 24 he had wound down a lot and had 2 daughters one he has custody of and one he never sees but he is trying his best and has not got int otrouble in about a year.

When it comes to thier mother all she ever wanted to do was party and my mother was 13 when my aunt had her first son and no sooner he was born it was back to party life and who got stuck watching baby, my mother till he was about 5 and then for about 10 years after my grandmother raised the two kids till one day my little cousin went to the bathroom and he was up thier for a while so his older bro went to check on him and found him in a corner surrounded by fire, he had to jump over a bed to get him and where was my grandma, face in the TV so after that my aunt finally stepped up to the mom plate and took care of her kids but her oldest son wa spretty much ruined by that time but when eh got married two years ago he really straightened out and as for her youngest son I honestly do not know how he becmae such a damn angel I mean these two grew up being allowed to do what they wanted and neither had never had any dicipline I mean no hitting or grounding.

Answer 10

well, I am a parent to be and I will definitely be a parent that cares about what her child does and says. I will NOT allow my child to disrespect me and I WILL spank their bottom if they don't mind their manners.

I think these days many parents might be somewhat afraid about spanking or "hitting" their kids for fear of CPS being called on them. I don't know, but I totally agree with your concern for the children of this world. more parents DO need to make their children mind their manners!