why do the nice guys have a hard time finding the ladies?

Question

I am a nice guy, I don't have the perfect body I know but I am not dog either. I always treat women with respect. so if looks doesn't matter but the way you are treated does then talk to me I am real and i do not put up a front

Answer 1

Your unconscious body language is probably saying that you expect to be treated badly. You are sending out vibes that say you don't think much of yourself. Look at your question. It says "I know I'm going to get kicked in the ***** again, but I gotta try!"

Be sure of yourself. Be interested. Ask questions, and then LISTEN to the answers. Make well thought out, not snide, comments. Talk about yourself a little. Answer questions without emotional overtones. Smile when the occasion demands it. Show a bit of deferential humor. And if you promise to call, make sure you do so in a timely manner. Don't make any promises you have no intention of keeping.

Answer 2

thats great! the ladies just don't realize what a jewel you are. since most guys put up a front, they assume that you do too. It can be hard to tell the difference. If may not be as beneficial now to be nice, but later in life, if will pay you back. All the other guys wont have any girlfriends worth talking about and you will have a great sweet girl and you two will love each other. Just keep trying
Good Luck!!

Answer 3

You're the perfect friend...alot of women are attracted to guys who will do them wrong, I don't know how this happens because I'm one of those girls. The good guys who aren't so attractive, aren't as popular tend to end up as the guy who's always there to listen, the best friend, and in some cases, the dream guy standing right before a girl's eyes. You come in contact with very shallow chicks, that's the problem. What you should do first is stop looking for a lady...love comes when you least expect it. Be patient, you will find someone who appreciates you for the person you really are...good luck

Answer 4

Hmmm...dear, are you coming off as desparate, lonely? Women are attracted to confidence...a man who is honest, since, and frankly needy guys SCARE us away. Speaking from the point of view that nice guys are attracted to me, but just like clingy girls SCARE the hell out of guys....well the opposite is true for girls. Well, a real lady won't initiate, and sorry if this sounds old fashioned, but we REALLY do like gentlemen...and I am as independent as it gets in a male dominated career (18 years of service in the military). DO: Be yourself. DO NOT: Think you will find a REALLY nice gal trolling the bars. DO: Give internet dating a try...PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE AND IT IS NOT FOR LOSERS, it shows that we are busy people who don't have the time for looking for relationships.... KNOW what you want and DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. Are you a giver or a taker? Do you want someone who is interested in YOU or your bank account? If you are only in it to win it...well you will run into ALL kinds of USERS (Yep, there are a bunch of them out there), and look for someone who can be your partner and friend, then build intimacy...relationships founded on sex NEVER work. Sure they may be fun for a while, but then if there is nothing else...you sure are going to be miserable.
Maybe this is a rant...but a relationship...well it is a two way street and a real relationship has growth, depth, and I think that is what you are searching for. You have to make yourself a little vulnerable.

Answer 5

Real life meetings are a drag, a person is always judged by appearance. Try an online match site, ie. match.com or yahoo personals. It only costs about $30 a month (guessing) and put an honest, recent pic up (use great lighting of course, we all can do that!)
You can tell about yourself and maybe a lady will find and appreciate the real you.
Don't limit the distance, if you seriously want to find a great woman, you might have to extend your search boundaries to all states in our country and even other countries. Get a passport.

Answer 6

You have realized the truth my friend. Women a very superficial and shallow beings. On yahoo answers women say looks aren't important , size doesn't matter and nice respectful guys are hott. In the real world it's a totally different story.

Answer 7

Well, I'm married honey, sorry, lol, but I've found that the nice guys are usually the quiet guys who aren't so much into drawing attention to themselves. So they tend to get noticed less. Being a quiet sort of person myself, I've noticed it also tends to put people off. People also tend to stereotype a bit too much and don't always take the time to read between the covers a bit.

good luck!

Answer 8

Hey depends where are you looking for women at cause in my world there is some ladies out there that would love a nice submissive guy to take advantage of!

Answer 9

Some woman can be just as much cowards as men. Nice guys tend to be harder to screw over figuratively or literally.

1.) stop talk’n like a a55 clown for starters
2.) Personal Hygiene
3.) know who your are and what you want.
4.) Talk with people in real life – not bars or clubs etc.

Answer 10

it is not hard if you meet the right lady, a good hearted woman who is looking for a honest man and a real loving relationship..
Not some chick who thinks she can change a thug or criminal and is looking for a good time and has no idea what real love is..
unfortunately , too many women these days have no idea what real men are like anymore..
You will find her, it just might take longer than you would like...