My boyfriend is an aspiring porn director. I told him that I'd support him in anything he wants but now...

Question

what should I do? the more we've been together the more I feel jealous when he's talking to all these girls. I'm helping him pick out sets for goodness sake. but I just can't help feeling insecure and afraid that I might be left for a Barbie doll. Help??

It's been a short enough time that we've been together... it's only been 6 months. I'm heeding everyones advice and your right I should have enough confidence in myself and our relationship but hey can you blame me.

I'm relatively a confident woman. I know I can turn heads walking into a room and I know that out of pretty much the pick of the litter my bf chose me, but it's such a difficult industry to keep your head about you. His sisters been in the adult film industry for years so he's been exposed and has explain his intentions are strictly monetary. How do I know he's sincere about me??? How do I know that I'm not going to be left for dust???

Answer 1

Well tell him that while you support him you'd:

A. Like to be less involved and hear less about it if possible becausde it makes you feel insecure!

B. Might have to seperate from him if you cant deal with your fears (but dont try to change him or threaten him and make that clear to him, but at the same time you dont want to be unhappy in any relationship)


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Answer 2

Let him know that getting into the industry can be *VERY* difficult. There are a lot of downsides, and it doesn't start up as quick as most people think.

I posted a similar answer http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20060810080655AA6Y79b&r=w#QsUtUmS4WDAq1Hgkc4z3VH.d.uCdOxl9GuBUaFiwBx.fXUAkG3pp

I talk about how it can be hard to get your niche carved, with tons of others as compition, as well as other options. I think, instead of trying to "direct" porns, you should encourage him to look at an affiliate program. There are stores for toys, clothes, and other gear, that he can then promote on the web, and you can help him with it.

This will give him a taste of how easy or hard it will be for him to succeed in the industry. If he can't make decent money promoting established products, than he'll have an even harder time with his own stuff, and will have a harder time recovering money for his investment; hope he isn't thinking girls will do it for free!

I list a few affiliate programs that I've had moderate success in on that answer, so you may want to turn him in that direction. This way, you can both work to make some good money, and you can breathe easier, as he won't be talking with other women as actresses.

Answer 3

You have to tell him about your insecurity's if he really cares he will be there for you and try and find a way to compromise. He will try to make you feel good about this relationship.Weather it is leaving the job, taking you to all the shoots, letting someone Else do all the talking. or some way around it Maybe after you go to a few shoots you will feel comfortable with his love and not need to go anymore. You will always have a tinge of jealously that can be a good thing in a relationship but to much can destroy one. Most important message here communicate with him. If he loves you strongly he will understand.

Answer 4

Aspiring porn director...nice career to be 'aspiring' to! Isn't he smart enough to get a regular, decent job? How about directing 'regular' movies. Isn't he good enough to do that? Have you questioned him on that? Maybe he's some sort of sexual deviant and you shouldn't be with him in the first place. Did you ever think of that? The world of porn is not a nice place to be. It usually involves drugs, alcohol and a lot worse things that could and have led to death. I am sure that eventually he WILL end up with a 'barbie doll'...it almost always happens. Read up on some porn directors and see what their lives were like and tell your boyfriend about them. Do you want to be a part of that type of world? I think you and he need a heads up on more decent things you could be doing with your lives.....Good Luck

Answer 5

I think for the relationship to work you must be very confident in yourself and in your relationship. I'd think long and hard about wheather or not you want to live a life around that type of environment. If you're already jealous I think it's only going to get worse for you. Good luck making the right decision for yourself.
The porn industry is famous for destroying lives. If he isn't willing to leave with you to try directing other types of films...you really should consider leaving to save yourself. I love porn and see nothing wrong with it, but i've seen it ruin many lives. Remember your doubts and listen to yourself.

Answer 6

Oh man, not a good situation. I would hate to be in your shoes. However, if you have a solid relationship, you should not have anything to worry about. How long have you been together? Are you going to be around this porn crap all the time? Leave some more details.

Answer 7

Have a good talk with him...See what can be done and what can't.If you can foresee that you gonna have a tough time managing this special relationship, then gal, drop it... That's the only way to deal with it as the fact that ur bf is a porn director is not going to change...

Answer 8

if you really love him and trust him this much as to helping him and knowing about it from the start of it, then you should stay with him. he obviously wants you over them, so don't be so self-conscious.
if he wanted a pretty barbie doll, he probably would be with one and not you. but he wants a regular girl, a real woman not all done up and fake and hasn't been around the block a few times.

Answer 9

its his job or at least his aspiration. if u can show him support then its good. but do not worry too much about him talking to all these girls, porn is MADE of girls and it wouldnt be much of a porn material if it was only guys. if he likes u then he will stick with u and if he goes for the girls in his porn shows then its his lost, i think girls in porn clips cant be trusted to be loyal...hell i thought any gal would immediately dump her bf if she found out he was a porn director

Answer 10

Keep your cool. In fact, he might be feeling the same way since you're probably around the male porn actors. Just don't let your fears get the best of you unless you actually see something is wrong.