I am getting married soon, and I've never had sex. We decided to wait, but now I don't know what to do. What do I before, during and after sex. Basically, how do I have sex. Teach me!!
2006-08-11 14:08:49 · 28 answers · asked by onceuponatime767 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
something will come up, trust me.
2006-08-11 14:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is so awesome that you have saved yourself for marriage!!! Congratulations!!! I too never had sex before being married, and had lots of the same worries that you do. The best thing is to just relax and enjoy being with your new husband. It will not be perfect or "great" the first time or two, but it does get better. What will be great and wonderful will be being together and enjoying each other in a way that you haven't been able to before. As far as knowing what to do, it will come naturally. It does hurt a little bit the first time and maybe a time or more after that. And like a few other people have said on here...the guy does most of it. Just take it slow and don't freak out. I got a really good book from my bridal shower and I really recommend that you read it...it has lots of helpful advice. It is called Sheet Music...I can't remember the author though, but I'm sure you can find it at any major bookstore or online. Also, if you have a close enough relationship with your mom, it would be great to talk with her about some of your fears. That helped me a lot to talk with my mom. If not your mom, maybe you have an older female friend whom you can confide in. But the best advice is not to worry, but relax and enjoy!!! It will be wonderful!!!
2006-08-11 23:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Amber I 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, are you serious..a virgin, how sweet, there are hardly any of you left and I mean that with the utmost respect. I wish i would have waited, but just relax and let him do all the work. It's going to hurt at first, the penetration, him pushing into a place that hasn't had any prior entry. Try to do some foreplay first, you know, touching and kissing to get yourself moist first so it will be a little easier for him to enter, that might minimize the pain. Now, there might be a little blood, don't freak out, that's normal. And normally after he goes in and out for a bit, it'll start to feel a little better. If it hurts, just ask him to stop and go take a nice hot bath. You guys are getting married so you'll have the rest of your life to make love/have sex, so don't rush it. But it's a special part of life so try to relax and enjoy it. It'll take a few more go's at it before you will feel comfortable with it but soon you'll more than likely grow to like it...smile It's ok, I'm sure everything will be just fine.
2006-08-12 01:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lene B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow-you are a virgin! I am not, but I think that it is awesome that you are! I am guessing you have more self-control than most people if you have waited until your wedding night to do this! My fiance's parents said that they did but I know that they are lying. Anyway, get some books, movies or any type of porn and it will show you exactly what to do-just relax and have fun and be yourself-I think that you will probably do better than you think-good luck and have fun! You've waited this long so you deserve a good time!
2006-08-12 02:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR SUCCESS FOR BEING A VIRGIN ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!
As for the Big Night--just RELAX...Don't do anything--your man will know what to do. Most men are satisfied to just have a warm body. So don't think you need to all these tricks and moves--you don't. Just RELAX and be happy to be with him..
The best thing you can do is try to sneak away at the wedding party to take a quick, but thorough shower. Its hot outside so you don't want to be "tart" on your wedding night. Wear perfume--and lotion your body up really good, and wear some really cute undies--maybe a thong..Look like a HOT MOMMA and your man will take it from there.
Plus, maybe you should wait till the morning like the guy just said..
Peace
2006-08-11 21:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will say this,your wedding day will be full of so many things and well wishers. Not to mention a lot of drinking. I would recommend that you wait till the next morning because I guarantee your new husband will be so drunk,he won't be able to perform.
The next morning,both of you are relaxed and you will enjoy it more going at your own pace. Good luck!
2006-08-11 21:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, the wedding nite is not great sex because both people are soooo tired from the days events. But, having said that, it is very special. There isn't much that anyone but the 2 of you can say. You will know what to do...let his body guide yours.
2006-08-11 21:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by rookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone recommended you look at porn to learn. Don't do that. That is the worst suggestion ever. Porn is not about love, and so much of it is abnormal. Be close to each other in private and let nature take its course.
But after 20+ years have passed by, and your kids are going to college, and all irrelavances have dissolved away, your love will be stronger, because you will always have the knowledge that you saved yourself for your one true love.
2006-08-11 23:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Freeway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to it sort of. Best advice is to take it slow and relax. You waited all this time right... so don't rush it (if he loves you he will understand). I am not making any promises (do you really want first time to be the best … it takes practice getting to your sexuality and your partners especially [we can’t read minds]). Yet, if you take you time and make sure you are aroused and ready, then you can minimize some discomforts and other issues. Good Luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!
2006-08-11 21:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not something that you get taught on a computer. Go to your local bookstore and check out the sex books there, there will be all kinds of pictures!!! Have fun!!! Enjoy!!!
2006-08-11 21:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are not going to get what you need on here. Get a book, rent a video (instruction, not porn!!), then take what you know, mix it with what you feel in your heart for your new husband & you'll be fine.
Congrats on the marriage & waiting.
These days that's so rare and quite commendable!!!
2006-08-11 21:13:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋