As of late, I've been going through a lot of emotional stress. To try to ease myself from that stress, I've decided to get rid of every negative influence in my life. At my dojang, there is this instructor that pretty much talks down to me every time I go there.
Don't get me wrong, I love martial arts. I will do martial arts for the rest of my life if I keep my legs underneeth me. However, I will not be spoken down to, and especially at this time of my life.
If I get spoken down to ever again by my instructor, it might lead to a bigger mental breakdown where people will get hurt. I'm trying to keep my sanity.
Would it be a good idea for me to quit?
2006-08-11 13:47:47 · 18 answers · asked by enigma_frozen 4 in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
I agree with the first answer. I may be confused but I thought martial arts promoted respect. This fellow sounds like a 3rd degree jerk - you are a valuable human being, worthy of respect. You should not tolerate that and as he probably won't change, find an instructor who doesn't need to build his own ego by belittling others.
Many things don't bother me much - but I put a high value on respect. It's the one thing I can manage to be assertive about! : )
I hope the emotional stress gets better for you. I can relate.
2006-08-11 13:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would quit. Martial arts is good for a workout but really can't be taken seriously as a sport....since it's not a sport. I understsnd that it takes time to improve in this as with a real sport, but it is something that anyone can do. Sure some people can be "good" at it but does that mean that it is really a sport? I could practice at standing an egg on end but it will never be a sport. To me Martial Arts is a waste of time and the people that do it think way too much of it. Most of my family are currently in martial arts and it drives me crazy to see the way that they act about it.
So yes, quit and take up another activity that can keep you in shape.
2006-08-11 21:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by axmd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it would not. You will blame yourself for "quitting" later on. I suggest that first you ask the instructor to have respect for you as you respect him. Tell him your concerns. If he does not respond, then go to a new DoJang. There are plenty of Korean Martial Arts that you can easily move in to practicing. I have had similar problems and over the years have learned to deal with them. Giving up is never the answer.
2006-08-11 20:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends upon what you mean by "talking down" to you.
If talking down is a habbit of your instructors that sounds abusive and is in a negative tone, then you do need to leave that school. Discouraging instructors who communicate with their students as if they were victems of their bullying should be teaching at a fighting school and not in a peaceful place such as a do jang.
If he talks down to you by means of superiority (similar to a drill sargeant but more curteous), then that is something that you must learn to deal with. It is part of respect that lower belt students must show to their superiors, especially the master instructor. It is merely a matter of discipline that many new students dislike and drives them to quit within a few months.
Once at a higher ranking, a more expirienced student will understand why it works this way. You must respect them as if they were your parents or let's say military officers, just as you would want your children to respect you, as well as your employees, soldiers, and especially trainees of martial arts.
Re-asses the mode your instructor speaks to you in. if it is abusive like a bully, don't cause any more trouble and make a fool of your self. Your better off leaving and letting him know why politely.
If not, give it time. I was used to this from the start because of my strict parents, but I did not realize how big a deal it would become until I started to do some instructing myself.
Pil Seung!
Kyo Sah Nym David Botte
2006-08-12 01:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it will help the try it ya gotta do what ya gotta do right I had a job at a dairy farm and almost every day i lost my my mind dealing with all that bull$hit I got paid next to nothing and I did more work than my boss some days I quit for various reasons but If I stayed there any longer I was gonna really flip out hardcore so in the end I ques only you know what ya really need to do
2006-08-11 20:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with other peoples answers who say switch to a different school. My Sensi treats us all with respect just like we treat him with respect, don't get me wrong he can me hard on us but he always treats us with respect.
There are some Martial Arts schools that have too much of an ego, that have the attidude that we are better then everyone else and we can kick all theie butt's. If you are happy with the syyle of Martial Arts you are learning then find a different school that teaches the same style, if you are not all that happy switch to a different style.
2006-08-11 21:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick your master in the face and walk out. the only time they can yell at you is when your doing push ups and messing up, not for anythign else. Tell him to stay away from you or you'll kick him in the face if you can't train hard enough, train with a passion to kick him in the head. He might be trying to pull some, if he trains hard enough he will beat me if not than i don't know. if hes just a jerk. yah, train hard at a different dojo perfect a high kick and a running one and do it to his head sorry, but thats the only way you can shut people that talk you down. Your master should usher not tell, bring about strong influences and techniques not be a penis. any ways to sum up my answer KICK HIM IN THE FACE! oh yah and train harder and good luck in your hard times. Remember masters are there to help instruct, and train not break down. Hes obviously not that good of a fighter if hes mean.
2006-08-12 02:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first talk to the owner or the instructor's supervisor. Then if your still not happy, but you want to continue, find another martial arts school.
2006-08-11 20:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be possible for you to quit this instructor and find another place for instruction on martial arts.
2006-08-11 20:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Martial arts, you enjoy. That is good.
Instructor has problem with himself. You quit not the art. Quit instructor.
Try new art -- Tai Chi Chuan. Very goog for finding center in our life. Improves æ°£ (qi) -- energy and life force. Navigate and use qi to your advantage.
2006-08-11 20:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kitiany 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋