how can I stop my mother from abusing me and controling me since I am 45 I feel like she tells me I not allowed to move out.
2006-08-11 13:35:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2006-08-11 13:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Excel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary, if you recognize your mom is abusing and controlling, that is the first step to helping yourself. Do not feel guilty anymore. Find a therapist that you feel comfortable with and start making a life for yourself. It is time to learn to love yourself. You can still love your mom and be good to her and live your own life too. You are old enough to understand your mom has issues. They are not your fault. Get yourself some guidance today, first thing tomorrow, Monday morning. You will feel more confidence and be on your way to Independence. Best Wishes!
2006-08-11 13:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to move out then do so. Only you can allow your mother to abuse you. If this behavior is happening then it may be best for you to move out? Are you capable of supporting yourself? You could move in with a couple of friends that you could trust to start with. In the meantime if your mother behaves abusive toward you let her know that you don't appreciate it and very nicely tell her not to do it again.
2006-08-11 13:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 45 and living with your Mom? And worried that she won't let you move out?
OK, if you're not just pulling everyone's chain, there is something more going on here than you are telling us.
My guess is that one or both of you have some serious medical and/or mental issues. Get help, quick.
2006-08-11 13:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are 45, you have all rights to move out of your mother's house. Call a friend and move out if she's abusive. If you can't get a hold of friend, go to a women's shelter.
2006-08-11 13:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Pears 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She may be afraid that if you leave she will be left alone in her old age.
She can only control if you let her. so why do you let her? there is a big difference betwen honering your parents and letting them abuuse and control you because you are afraid of of talking back and aserting your own independence.
What do you call or mean by abuse and controlling?
Since you are over21 you can move out on your own anytime you want without any explation to her.Why are you staying and taking it?
2006-08-11 13:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary G,your mother was probably treated the same way by her mother and you will probably treat your children the same way if you don't put and end to this behavour. Your mother appears unable to help you grow up,she keep treating you as a child and you keep behaving like a child. If she cannot or will not have the strength to to force you to grow up you will have to grow up on you own. Accept the responsibility for your on life and actions. if you need help, Pray to the one God of us all for help, then Go to a local church and tell them your problem and ask for their help.God will send you lots of help but you are the only one who can change your life. Read the book AS A MAN THINKETH by james allen. DO NOT ASK FOR HELP FROM YOUR MOTHER
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2006-08-11 14:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the answer is simple---You are 45, move out of your mothers house! Last time I checked, 45 is considered an adult in ANY culture.
2006-08-11 13:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by michael s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She sounds bipolar. You need to get away from her. She may be your mother, but she doesnt own you, and shes just another person... and to be happy, you have to stay away from the negative. You may have to report her. You need to take control of your life and be the 45 yr old you are. You may need counceling yourself. Sounds like she has you messed up as well. Get some help.
2006-08-11 13:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are your mother's caretaker, leave immediately if not sooner.
If you are her caretaker, consult your city's department on aging and arrange care for your mother. Regardless of income she is eligible for some type of services. The department on aging can steer you toward the right services.
It is high time for you to cut the apron strings and get out into creation. Both you and your mom will benefit from your move.
Good luck.
2006-08-11 13:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋