My husband's family is Mormon and they want us to have 6 kids?

Question

My husband's step-family is Mormon, but my husband and his parents were never Mormon.

Everytime I see them they talk about how my husband is 26 with no kids yet.

They think its crazy that we have been together for 5 years and we don't have children.

When we say we plan to have 2 children, they get all crazy and say they want us to have 6!

They talk about how they are such a blessing, but we don't have that kind of money.

My husband's step-family get mney from their parents and Church to support them. We rely on ourselves.

What do I do about this family? Even if we could afford 6 kids, I wouldn't want that many!

Answer 1

The decision is between the 2 of you. If you want to have 2 kids, your husband's family shouldn't affect your decision. Not his parents, not your parents can tell you what to do anymore, you're grown and you have your own family, the decision should be up to you, not only about how many kids to have, but smaller things, you wouldn't let someone else decide how to decorate your home or what to cook to eat for dinner or how to spend your money and you shouldn't let them decide on how many kids you should have.

Answer 2

It really is none of their business. I'm a Mormon and don't plan on having more than four. Right now, my two kids are plenty for me to handle. The truth is that only you and your husband can decide how many kids are right for you. I've seen too many families where they have kids up into the double digits and they can't care for them.
On the flip side, my wife had an aunt who tried to get us to have an abortion when she found out we were pregnant with our first. We did the same thing you should do: we ignored her suggestion and went on with our lives. Tell them that you're not ready for kids, a Mormon supports your right to make your own decisions (not that you need my support, but it may help them to back off).

Answer 3

So, you married a creep who you probably did not get to understand properly sufficient previously you married him and it did not go properly for you. even in spite of the undeniable fact that obviously you're commonly to blame for that, i think for you and also you've were given my sympathy. yet because the mothers and fathers of this guy are good those who did not kick their stricken son to the lessen yet particularly chosen to help their son even in his inadequacies - you experience that considering they did not damage their son like you want him to be damage then it is a black eye on the Mormon church and they might want to be punished? it is purely loopy. Sorry for what surpassed off to you, yet they could do with their son how they seem fit. You former in-guidelines were no longer to blame for his habit as an human being nor become it their pastime to inform you that he had a baby that you probably did not study. it is all things you ought to have finished. you're damage - and also you imagine his mothers and fathers are terrible for no longer hurting him because you're damage. at the same time as i'd have finished issues in yet otherwise if I were his mothers and fathers that is their selection.

Answer 4

Here is a way to get them to back off by playing to their religion. Remind them that the LDS church feel couples need to decide this between the 2 of them. It should be based on how many kids they can afford to raise and how many they can mentaly and physically handle. That the thought of having more then 2 kids makes you feel really stressed and you won't want to make your kids feel neglected or guilty because you would not be able to take care of them as you should if you had more than 2.

The LDS church does not want to be helping people to support their families. They want them to be doing it themselves by living within their means. So remind them that you can not afford more then 2 kids without having to be suplimented by welfare or other assistances (whether this is true or not it should help get them off your back).

Answer 5

Mormon leaders teach that the number of kids in a family definitely is between the husband and wife. Don't worry about what they think.

Answer 6

All families are going to have opinions on what their children or whoever should do with their lives... heck they can complain about anything - even how they wash dishes or what they wear!

Don't let it affect you too much. Try to brush it off. If and when you do have kids, they will have opinions on how you raise them, dress them, etc. The nagging will never end with family!

So, just get used to dealing with it by letting it roll off your back. Ultimately, it is your life and ONLY YOU have to live it. So, be confident with your own decisions and leave them to their own opinions.

Answer 7

I am a Mormom mom with 4 kids and I would tell them that they need to mind thier own business. They decision to have children is between a husband and wife and no one else. You have to have them and support them. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I'm LDS as well and it's your body, your home, your life. YOU and your husband TOGETHER decide how many children you want to have and can afford to have, not the inlaws. Next time they pull that on you tell them, "Yes, children are a blessing, but I'm only going to have as many as I can feed."

:)

Answer 9

It is your choice first and foremost how many children you have and when. This is none of your husband's stepfamily's business. If they continue to annoy you about this, you and your husband should take them aside and explain very gently, but straightforwardly, that you would appreciate it if they would please stop pressuring the two of you about this. This is something you and your husband should have to answer to absolutely no one about.

Answer 10

ask your husband to take your own decision, it is your life, kick them out from your life .
A mother should have rights to decide how many kids she want even husband should not have this right.(i have the same prob)