pauline fowler style mother in law should we cut her out?

Question

should we cut the mother in law out, shes interfering, manipulipitive, pauline fowler style mother in law. we cant do anything right and shes always causing trouble. we have given her so many chances she upsets our kids by not being there on birthdays and going on hols instead. she causes us days of worry, wondering what to do 4 the best when we fall out, she brings nothing but missery, the only good thing she does is babysit when shes not busy mind you. both me and my hubby feel the same. she put his half sisters before him and we are always left out of things because we dont get on with one of his sis cause she slagged me off one year. do you think if we cut her out that she would realise her ways and change.

Answer 1

No, she will probably find a way to blame you. The only thing you can do is cut her out emotionally so that her nastiness has minimal impact on your lives. And stand up to her, both of you as a united front. It is your husband's mother, and as he feels the same way, talk to him about what he wants to do. Maybe cutting her out would be the best thing for both of you, but don't do it expecting her to change, its unlikely to happen, do it because you no longer want contact with her. Otherwise, maybe you and your hubby should sit down with her and ask her what her problems with you both are. If she is as bad as you say, this is unlikely to get a result, it sounds like she is taking out her own insecurities on you both. Whatever you decide to do, do it because it is right for you, not to elicit a change within her. If she changes, great, but see it as a potential bonus to your actions, not as a given. God bless.

Answer 2

Keep gliding through all the nonsense that can come from people like her. Don't tell the kids if she's due to come, act surpised if she turns up.
Try to get over the slagging from ages ago - life's too short.
I wouldn't ask her to babysit because she then has a handle on your family and can manipulate the kids for her own reasons when you are out!!
Try to keep contact to a minimun but don't break off completely, no matter how you decide it, she's still his mother and may twist it round on you later on.

Answer 3

Do whatever makes your family unit happy. Your unit is more important than worrying about inlaws or family. Just because she's your mother-in-law doesn't mean you HAVE to have her in your life. If your husband agrees then do cut her out, Why should you put up with someone that makes you all unhappy, it doesn't make sense.

Whether she would mend her ways only you know that, but it might make her think.

Have a happy and fruitful life what ever decision you make.

Answer 4

had the same sort of mother in law once.. do you know im beginning to think that whats happened to me in my life has happened to hundreds of others.. if i were you.. try to ease your stress levels.. some people cannot be helped and you have to realise this. Maybe not have so much contact with her. Give her some breathing time to let her think..mmm not heard from either one of you for a while.. if you haven't seen her for a while then maybe..just maybe she would be a little nicer.

Don't get into confrontations.. it leads to misery.. trust me on that one..

lots of luck. It's not easy. But you have each other and the love of your children. HUGE HUGS....... from one who knows

Answer 5

i could be over the moon Paulines' continuously been slightly a Fox i could be attempting to have her over honestly a approach of coin operated washing machines. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr shes a GILF and a 1/2 and no mistake.

Answer 6

if you think ur family will be happier and ur huband can really acccept that ye are cuttin out his mother then go for it..this mite cause tension with ur hubbies other relatives so be careful

Answer 7

Do as you wish.