This is your BEST-childhood-FRIEND...She decides to make an announcement about her pregnancy with a man she just met only a few months ago to HER friends, meaning they are not your friends, but you know of them & they know OF you.
For no reason, she includes in her annoucement news about you... "Jane" is looking into adoption because she has medical issues (she gives them every detail of your medical problems). "
Oh and this big mouth friend is a R.N. and should know better about leaking medical information (HIPAA)!
Also...in her email, you find out that she lied about her age and about the father-to-be's occupation & his age. (she's 13+yrs older then he). One of HER friends finds the entire email odd so she forwarded it to you & that's how you find out!
When you confront her, she denies it..until you say that you've seen it with your own eyes! She doens't apologize, rather says she didn't do anything wrong!
Would you be mad at you bestfriend...What would you do????
2006-08-11 12:16:56 · 8 answers · asked by DeHuntres 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Ever heard the expression "Loose lips sink ships" yeah well in this case it was your friendSHIP that got sunk. You had every right as a friend (not even a best friend) to expect her to keep your medical issues between just you and her. Obviously if she sent the email out, and didn't include you in the list of sendee's it shows how much she values (or doesn't value) your friendship. Honestly I'd move on, I would tell her to her face (since that's what a RESPECTABLE person would do, don't sink to her level), that while she may BELIEVE she did nothing wrong she has hurt you enough that she has shown you that she really doesn't care about you, therefore she has ended the friendship. Tell her if she didn't want to be friends there are a lot more respectable ways of ending a friendship amicably rather than a gossip/smear campaign. As far as her lies about her man, who cares, in a few years they'll end up divorced anyway probably... although funny she tells about her own deception in a mass email. It honestly sounds like you will be better off without this person as your friend, I'm sorry it had to come at the cost of your privacy (I'm also sorry to hear you're unable to conceive). It's time to move on and away from her, poisonous people tend to polute the people around them, so the quicker the better. In all this you just need to be the better person (and not spread gossip about her), yeah you're hurt, and you probably have some right to be, BUT stooping to her level will just show people how petty YOU can be, they will respect you a lot more if you just say, I'm sorry you're not a better friend, and walk away.
2006-08-11 12:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kat__hleen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you didn't want to tell and she did the mistake of telling about your medical problems. She shouldn't have told if you didn't want it to be known. But you won't delete the memories or turn back time with your anger.
I also have problems and will never be able to be a biological mother (Turner syndrome to be short) and I always felt something like...if a man wants a family, and knows I can't give him one, he won't love me...but I can be loved for what I am.
What is wrong about wanting to adopt a baby? Like my doctor said to me, maternity is not a synonym of pregnancy or chidbirth, mother is the woman who takes care of a child, in good times and bad times. So you can be a mother and it is not the business of those friends how do yo do it.
2006-08-11 12:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes you think if she is really your best friend ????? and you grew together you should be like sisters, wow,,,,,, she is very rude and not a good friend,,,, if its your best friend or not its personal information and only up to the person who is going through it should say anything. I find it werid for her to mention you in her announcement in that way..
by the way its funny what you said,,, but true!!!!!,,, she should know better than that,,,,, she should practice the hippa.
and would i be mad ,,,,,yes but I would be more concern if she really cares for me as a friend, like a sister should or theres something else that's bothering her ????? It would make me think about our friendship??? you say she denies it well than there nothing you could if she doesn't admit that she did wrong but common sense tells you she shouldn't of done that.. IT PERSONAL INFORMATION I know how it feels tryin to conceive myself ,,,,,,,, so cheer up and just let go because you'll just be harming yourself with that stress................................
2006-08-11 14:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would be very mad but more upset then mad.. And it sounds to me that she is trying to get attention. Maybe there is something going on in her life that isnt right. Try and talk to her and see if there is something beneath the whole email issue and always remember.. Boy/girl friends come and go but Family and freiends are always there. Good luck
2006-08-11 12:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by adriennebabcock19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd knock the hell out of her. That's what my thoughts are on that.
On the other hand, if it is my sweeter side of me talking, I would get the email of the others that it was sent to and cause some stink and make her look like a idiot.
Best friends.............learn to keep their mouth shut..................or they learn.
2006-08-11 12:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by So_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not even a friend to begin with..yah, i'd be torked off at her..that's not even cool! drop her..you don't need people like that in your life.
2006-08-11 12:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by pepsigrlfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a crazy, sycho ***** to me..that is not a freind...just leave her alone..wow sorry you had to go through that woman..
2006-08-11 12:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by te quiero tanto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think I'd be pretty pissed.
2006-08-11 12:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gayle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋