Got divorced and moved to a better place for my kids. Father agreed to the move, but now regrets it. He was abusive and we argued all of the time. Kids are happy, Mom is happy, Father makes me feel guilty and yells whenever we speak.
2006-08-11 11:18:52 · 10 answers · asked by Mos 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I wish my mom had done that for me. Hang in there.
2006-08-11 11:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rockvillerich 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe from experience that it's much better for kids to be away from yelling and arguing because it does too much damage to their self esteem.
It is better in some instances to live away from their father. Maybe he will get some counselling and become a person who can be a better father because the best solution would be for the children to see their father - but only if he's good for them.
2006-08-11 19:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty at all you had to do what you had to do to get away from him. I have been there and it is a hard situation to get out of. You are actually lucky you were able to move further away from him. I was not able because of our custody papers so i live in the same town, but still after 3 yrs i still avoid him at all cost. I also am forced to send my son to his house every other weekend and some more during the summer, if i don't send him i can go to jail for contempt of court..
Congratz to you for getting away, Not all of us do before it is to late.
If your kids don't understand yet they will soon enough.. Best wishes to you and your family..
2006-08-11 19:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by cenaldora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the guilt is his way of still trying to control you. Don't ever feel bad about putting your kids needs ahead of everything. As parents that is our job. Your ex is putting his feelings above the kids well being. If he wants to see the kids, he needs to put in the effort. If he was abusive, then he should be supervised with the kids by a state agency. Don't let his negativity and self serving control ruin your good intentions for your children.
2006-08-11 18:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by carolinagal75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get some help, and they you would be happy to accomodate him if he wishes to see the children. Don't let him make you feel guilty, he's just perpetuating the cycle of abuse.
2006-08-11 21:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation your in, but I do believe your kids still need a manly figure in there lives even if it can't be the real fathers
2006-08-11 18:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by phkenphun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes--if he is abusive he should be away--FAR away from the children!
Best wishes...
2006-08-11 18:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let him push you around anymore. don't talk to him anymore. good luck you did the right thing. i was end a mental abuse relationship.
2006-08-11 18:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they would get on better if they didn't live together.
2006-08-11 18:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by pinkychanny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad my dad left and wished he had left us many years before that.
2006-08-12 02:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋