if ever my exbf comes to my house. what should i do? should i give him a hug??
i miss him so much...i still feel that he still loves me. but dont have a gut to ask me back.....how can i show him that i'm still interested to get back with him??
please be serious if you answer this...thank you and i do appreciate everything.
no move on...move on ADVISE....I ALREADY DID...BUT I'M A PERSON THAT DONT LIKE HAVING DIFF BF'S AND HE IS ALSO.....BUT HE HAS THIS PRIDE. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2006-08-11 11:13:53 · 31 answers · asked by MS. CURIOUS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BY THE WAY....I'M 28 YRS OLD AND HIS 30 YRS OLD SO WE ARE NOT TEENAGERS.
2006-08-11 11:25:05 · update #1
I would say do whatever you feel. If you feel like giving him a hug, to it. I got in touch with my ex-boyfriend, and now we are married. It's worth a shot!! ~~~
2006-08-11 11:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by AMY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya give him a hug. However, I guess there are tons of alternatives to this question. For example why is he your EX? What happened, how old you both are etc...b/c that can determine how you act around him and vice versa.
Best thing to do is to talk about what the deal is basically, go get some coffee or ice cream and then go for a walk and just come flat out and start talking about the situation.
Then again having too much pride can be costly in his case....
2006-08-11 18:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by cobramade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay when he comes over- dont act any different towards him- no hugging etc etc. Act like everything is perfect with your life- if he wants you back- let him be the one to make the first move. Otherwise you might fall into the "Booty call" Trap. If he misses you enough his pride will give in. I have one of those stubborn men to, I broke it off with him cause he wouldnt commit and 1 month later we got back together and a few weeks after that we got engaged. Sometimes Alittle apart time is just what the doctor ordered. Dont make the first move thou- play it cool.
2006-08-11 18:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he comes over greet him with a hug, i'm sure you'll be nervous at first making sure you have the right outfit on that says "i'm cute damnitt", every girl does that =o) Ask how he's been and what he's up to. you'll get a feel after a while if he still has feelings for you. You may have to be the one to bring it up to him, but let him know that if the feelings aren't mutual that you understand and it's okay, but you just wanted to let him know incase he felt the same way. don't pressure him =o) I used to have an ex like this, things didn't work out, but it was for the better. good luck.
2006-08-11 18:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to hug him do it, but make it extremely brief. Like you would with a friend.
then if you talk for a while say "I sorta miss you" do NOT say that "I miss you so much I know you love me please come back!" talk about clingy! He will run away sure he was right that he is not with you. Just be cool about it. He is just a Friend now, Friends hug and friends miss each other. If he wants more of a commitment then that he is going to make some sort of action personally. Don't make it easy because starting again will likely rip open any recently closed wounds
2006-08-11 18:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by admiralgill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you open the door say something like "what do i not get a hug like." ask him if he's seeing anybody else(whether you know or not) if he isn't and doesn't ask if you are just give him that info by saying me neither. steer the conversation else where for a while then when you're both relaxed just pop out with "you know i still have feelings for you" he'll either squirm and want to get out of there fast or he'll(or should) tell you the same, OR to save the time just get it over with and ask i still have feelings for you and i was wondering if you feel the same he'll soon let you know. good luck
2006-08-11 18:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Scottish lass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that knows if you want him back and if you do...yes i would give him a hug and hold on a little longer than you would with someone else and see if you feel him try to pull away. Then gradually try to see if you can get closer to him through his visit and if you feel comfortable let him know what you want! My god......you guys obviously were together at one time and shared all your feelings together so keep it up! I wish you all the luck!
2006-08-11 18:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Shana H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly have feelings for him, and you think he still cares about you- talk to him!! I was in the same situation, everyone on here told me to get over him. Well, I didn't. I asked him if we could talk one day last month, and he said yes! Well, anyway, we're seeing each other again! So, if you still have hope, act on it. Give him a hug- see what happens....
2006-08-11 19:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by greatkidsnurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to be affectionate with him and show him that you are still in love with him. Don't be subtle about it and be very flirty. Give him hugs and kiss him on the cheek once in a while to remind him of how nice it felt to touch you.
I hope it helps you.
2006-08-11 18:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by sassy_italia4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm also in a similar situation..i still love my ex but we are in different points in our lives..maybe you guys are in the same situation..if you do see him tell him how you feel..if he says he can't be with you right now than respect that and really truely move on..don't be afraid to be with someone else..i would tell my ex how i feel but i have way too much pride for my own good
2006-08-11 18:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by yowww kelly clarkson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋